Are you a competitive mom? Here are the many ways in which mompetition can harm your child

Hi. You’re right when you say sticking to healthy boundaries is hard. And that’s the most frustrating part. Because you want to do your best. So, what makes it hard? 

The fact that it’s all happening without you knowing where it’s coming from – certain experiences in your childhood. You can’t change that. But you can try to remember situations and incidents in childhood that made you feel “I’m not good enough”. And because you have not healed from those experiences, you may be unconsciously competing with other parents, to feel better than them or to feel ‘good enough’ as a parent. 

When you recall your life experiences you may experience the same difficult emotions again. But also remember that you had no control over what you had experienced at that time. Now, you can think of other angles to your experiences. It will help you understand that you were not responsible for what was said, or for what happened. This exercise has the power to set you free from the influences of your past experiences. You will then compete in healthy ways and you will find yourself encouraging your child to do their best instead of pushing them to prove yourself as a parent.

However, if it’s difficult to face those memories on your own, try talking to a trusted person about them, or talk to a mental health professional. 

Hi Madam 

Thank you for sharing the wisdom 🙏.