What Do You Do When Your Child Says Hurtful Things To You And Your Heart Aches

@vibgyoreys I would acknowledge their anger by saying, I do understand how u feel right now. we can talk about it if that makes you feel better. This way they get to express the anger but also know they are heard by a calm adult. I do this with my children.

@my_ideal_parenting No parent would like to welcome that situation. It is we who teach our kids how to be mean by denying their emotions. So, we have to correct our way of parenting.

@tiwari.amrita511 Will divert the child to some game and leave the topic.

@sapnatriman Well, children say that when their wants are denied, or they are frustrated. All I say is that parents sometimes have to refuse things to children. By doing so, if my child hates me, it's okay, as I know deep in my child's heart there is love for me. When I told my son that I knew he loved me, although he says things like I hate you, his anger disappeared, and he started laughing. He also learnt the value of being patient, even during a tense moment, from my response.

@ashwinu06 I would be heartbroken.

The PARENTCIRCLE VIEW

Wham! It hurts, and how. But it's a clear message for us. Our children expect us to recognize and support them through their disappointments, frustrations, and anger. And when we don't, their hard-hitting declaration, "I hate you," is simply their way of saying, "Why can't you understand what I'm feeling right now? Help me." So, they don't hate us, they hate that we don't get what's going on inside them.