Child becoming Aggresive

Hi Ujala,

Hope the suggestions by parents have given you the starting point for handling the situation.

You may also take a look at these articles for help:

• How to keep children away from gadgets
• How to help your child overcome gadget addiction
• How to reduce screen time at home

Take care.

Hi Ujaala,

I’m sure lot of moms can relate with you when it comes to watching cartoons on mobile phones or using mobile phones for games.

Now you are trying to limit his usage, which is good. Actually he could use gadgets to learn something-  could hear some audio/ watch short  videos about general knowledge, maths etc.,  or something that will help him develop some good habits /hobbies. 

When it’s time to snatch (Instead of snatching,) if it is during the day, find him an activity where he is under the control of a teacher/authority  (who will not allow phones) Since he is taking liberty with you, you need to find another person for the time being when he is reluctant to give up his ph (family, friends or teachers with who he will behave in a more respectful manner)

At 4 yrs there are so many ways to engage your time - music - instrumental/vocal, martial arts, painting /colouring, dance, sports  etc.,  Take him out of the house. You might have to sacrifice a little -your time/ chores by accompanying him to his classes, getting him involved in another activity where you are also participating with him or taking him out to play dates/ parks or friend’s place. Try to come up with some creative solutions to avoid the situation from getting ugly (anger/hitting) Stay calm.

Let him get so busy that he has no time for phones. (At home you could also tell him that you need the phone and he cannot take it without permission) 

Be consistent with you efforts.  Have patience and be firm while informing him that he needs to go and attend to something else.  

You could also confide in a trustworthy person who will counsel him about being respectful towards you.  Did you consider enrolling him in shloka classes, story time or BhagavadGita classes for kids. That will also help. It may take time but it’ll help. All the Best!

Dear Ujala, Jeenal here, mother of a 5 yrs old kid. Try to limit the gadget time by introducing engaging activities. Do the activities with your child and make it your own fun time. If possible talk to him about incorrect behaviour with the help of stories. Give gadget usage as reward. Encourage him to help around house by giving him different tasks. Involve him in more outdoor activities by enrolling for some classes or regularly visit gardens or parks.

Hope this works for you. Happy parenting