Parents problem to a child

migi · 2023-04-01T11:59:26+08:00

Hi everyone..as a parent we are in some point of curiosity or maybe unsure we were talking with my partner what were going to do to our 4 years old daughter some neighbors or friends saying that try to consult our child and to make some assessment on her behavioral problem then my partner was searching what is ADHD she thinks that our child was have an ADHD problem..I will enumerate things that our child issues I hope you will guide us on this matter.1. She's very hyper like she's not getting feel tired within a day.2. Issues on eating food, stocking on her mouth the food until there's no more tastes then she will drink a lot of water until she got full and she acts like she was to vomit, it takes an hour after she finished eating.3. She loves sweet food she can it as fast as she can she never feel full with regards to sweets, her pedia doctor said that she's not allowed to eat those sweets, we decided to seek some advise or check up to her doctor because when she ate sweets there are some like insect bites on her legs until it will come to a wound because of scratching it she said that its itchy...her doctor talk to her and she understand that she is not allowed to eat anymore sweets..4. She's like older than her older sister when it comes to what shes uttering words shes good in telling stories that never happens she always doing that creating stories that un true, there also times that she's talking to her self in front of a mirror or while she was playing alone she's keep on talking like she have a playmate and we ask her whose she talking with she said that me alone,me my self.5. Her playmates with the age of 6 and up are afraid of her because everytime that she joined to them she pinch or anything that her playmates cried there where times that she pushed her playmate on the stairs and many more, and she keep on denying it to us in short the most of the time she bullied her playmates that why they doesn't want to play with her.6. She knows how to make some drama or act like she was so pity to people around her in short she knows how to manipulate the adults and get pitied her until they followed her on what she wants..7. Her focus on her tutorial class was not in there most of the time shes the one who teach her teacher she acts she knows it already but when her teacher ask her she didn't know the answer or she already forget what was their lesson her teacher sometimes lost their temper, her attention was not in there she keeps on talking and talking to her teacher out from their lesson and saying she's hungry or tired.8. There where no days that she didn't do some naughtiness there is the last time that she was in our neighbor while they are having lunch she poured water on the viand.9. There where times that shes telling lies or keep on denying things that she didn't do and there were times that she's uttering bad words we as a parents never heard it from her but many friends and kids are the one's who said it to us.10. Most of the time her older sister with the age of 11 years old 5'3 in height hit by her or anything that her older sister hurt she didn't even follow her sister she thinks that she's older than her older sister..We being parents also noticed it even we talked to her in a nice way affection, love, care everything all the attentions rewards and many more we are giving it to her, she's good she behaves when there's a reward or something she wanted after she got all what she wants it's just like nothing happens she forgot everything.. until we lost our temper too and she got beaten after that we were going to talked to her again she knows what she did she knows what her mistakes and she promise not to do it again,but she keep on repeating it. that's why we got so stress we didn't know what to do her, also her nanny lost temper too,the grandma got high pressured she's now in mid stroke,the third nanny from the center our daughter said that she got pinch on her ears she doesn't want her anymore, we look another a student after class she's the one take care of her but they also lost their temper, but we keep on convincing her to have a lot of patience to our child, me too as her parent lost tempered too I got so stress...were working with my partner after work we got home tired then problems comes out...

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Team ParentCircle Jun 25, 2024

Sometimes kids can really make you do things you promised you’d never do, like hitting them. And yet you find yourself doing just that, then feeling guilty and frustrated with yourself and your child. We’ve all been through this. There may be other reasons why you hit your child occasionally or frequently. Here’s a guide to knowing your triggers, and what causes them, and what else you could do to manage those tough situations.

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Arundhati Swamy Apr 3, 2023

Hi Migi. Thanks for reaching out for help here in the Community. You must be having a hard time trying to understand your child's behavior. You have tried so many ways to help her settle down and yet the problems seem to continue. You are putting in so much effort. Perhaps your efforts will be fruitful if you consider taking guidance, because sometimes it's really hard trying to figure out things on your own. So, may we suggest that you meet a qualified counselor who can guide and support you as you try to help your daughter. The counselor can help you see which of your child's behaviors are normal for her age and which behaviors need to be addressed.

Do let us know if you need help in finding a counselor you can talk to.

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migi Apr 3, 2023

@Arundhati Swamy

Thank you so much ma'am for the time .finding a councilor to talk is this free of charge ma'am or not?

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Arundhati Swamy Apr 4, 2023

@migi

Hi Migi. I'm sorry I didn't realize you were in another country when I said we could help you find a counselor. You may want to check with your family doctor or social services to see if they could recommend a professional counselor.

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