Dads are getting more involved in the lives of their children. Here a stay-at-home dad blogger writes about his decision to stay home and how he plans chores so that his working wife can spend quality time with the child
"I've been a stay-at-home dad to my son for five years. When he was born, my wife and I were working and we decided on a daycare for him. We chose the best daycare in our area and were still not happy. We saw our son for an hour in the morning and for two hours in the afternoon before he went to bed. It just didn't seem fair to him and left us feeling like nonexistent parents. My wife and I both held professional jobs, but my wife had a better position and made more money than I did. After looking at expenses vs. income, we decided we could make it on her salary alone while I stayed home.It is a bit of a shift in traditional thinking that breaks away from ‘his job’ and ‘her job’, leading to everything is ‘our job’. Because I get all of the household work and errands done during the week, we have more fun family time on the weekends without having to tote our son around on boring errands.
I was fortunate enough to be raised by a stay-at-home mom who taught me ‘household’ skills and a dad who taught me ‘home improvement’ skills. So, to stay at home, and to raise our son while maintaining the home, was not an issue. I do all of the cooking, cleaning, errands and shopping, budgeting, scheduling and appointments, school activities and chaperoning. I jokingly call myself the CDO, Chief Domestic Officer. I see what I am doing as more of a trend, whether one or both parents are working. Men are taking more time to help out around the home and putting in more effort in raising their families.
Now that my son is grown up, I have a few additional hours each day to do some marketing consulting on the side as well as write this blog. My blog's goal is not to chronicle every step of my day, but to offer truly helpful information to dads or any stay-at-home parent.
Five years after our decision, we are still doing well and have found a rhythm to our lives. Sometimes my wife needs some help from me with her work and sometimes I need help from her with my consulting and blog. We work together to raise our son to be the best he can be and work together so that everyone is successful. It is a bit of a shift in traditional thinking that breaks away from ‘his job’ and ‘her job’, leading to everything is ‘our job’. Because I get all of the household work and errands done during the week, we have more fun family time on the weekends without having to tote our son around on boring errands. It also makes for greater and longer quality time with mommy!
There are a lot of people who ask about how I feel about sacrificing my career. A career will always be there, I may just need to start back at the beginning. My main response to this question is that it is my wife who has done the sacrificing, by going to work. Once our child grows up, you can't go back. So another part of my job is to help give her the most time with him as possible…before he is off to college and starts a family of his own! If we could, we would both stay at home. But alas, there are bills to pay! We are just fortunate enough to be able to afford to do what we do."
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