Job Vs Parenting

Hi Meenakshi. I know what you must be going through. In fact, I had the reverse situation - as I continued to work after having kids and everyone judged me for that. 

Thankfully, I had a wonderful set of parents who supported me all the way. But along the way, I learnt that there is no formula to be a ‘perfect parent’. But yet, each one of us is the perfect parent to our baby because nobody could love our child more than us.  So please don’t think like this. 

Second thing is, none of us can spend quality time with our kids every single day, as we all have a lot of other commitments too. However, children are very sensitive to the moods of their parents. For them, when their parents are happy and smiling, everything is right in their little world. 

So, you thinking negative thoughts and appearing sad would affect them way more than anything else. So you being happy and at ease will be enough to make them feel loved. That’s what I have always done with my kids. Lastly, your husband being stricter with the elder one - we all go through life either doing what we believe in, or what we have experienced. It is also true that we often tend to parent our kids the way we were parented. So maybe having a frank conversation with him outside of the home atmosphere would help? Whatever be the outcomes of all this, Pl always believe that mothers are often the rock in a child’s life. So stay strong, stay positive. More power to you!

Hi Meenakshi 

The word "perfect" itself brings stress in parenting .There is no perfect or imperfect parenting .We parents are always work in progress .

Parenting is also a full time job .It is a crucial job as your guiding next generation. Only thing we are not paid for it .We have unconditional love and care for our family members .You can have  time for your hobbies .

Being tough or strict is type of love shown .Don't feel bad for it .

One thing no one can harm you except your negative thinking .Let go your ego and as a mother you can create an environment so all of you get together well

Hi Mam

I just happened to read your post and I really appreciate your courage in writing this. 

For sure I can tell experts in parent circle will definitely guide you.You are at the right spot.