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Hitting is a way parents try to assert authority over their children. But do you know the negative effects of beating a child? Read on to know what happens when you hit your child.
It is impossible for parents to not get angry with some of the things their children do. Sometimes, the mistakes made by children are so grave that parents feel overwhelmed. During such situations, quite a few parents lose control and resort to hitting their children. Also, some parents hit their children on the slightest pretext. While hitting hurts the child, both emotionally and physically, it affects parents as well.
Let's look at the effects of beating a child, by examining the issue from multiple perspectives.
In the past few years, many research studies have proved the negative effects of beating children. Here are a few side effects of beating a child:
Physical punishment causes a lot of pain to children, but it never produces the desired effects. In fact, physical punishment only makes the matter worse. A number of parents resort to slapping their children to discipline them. However, research studies have shown that such punishment can lead to psychiatric issues like anxiety disorder, alcohol abuse or dependence, and externalizing problems.
Some of the reasons why parents resort to hitting are:
Parents who start with hitting once in a while, come to rely on it more and more over time. As the habit takes deeper roots, they start hitting their children even for the slightest breach of rules. Such parents find it difficult to break the cycle, giving rise to the likelihood of turning into abusers. Also, after hitting their children, most parents start feeling guilty and stressed, and find it difficult to reconcile and connect with their children. All these lead to a decreased quality of parenting.
No parent will hit their child for pleasure. Only when the parent is unable to manage the child, or if the child has committed a seemingly unpardonable mistake would a parent resort to physical punishment. But, after inflicting physical punishment, most parents are overwhelmed by feelings of regret and remorse, as they love their child a lot. However, if parents are under stress, then their tolerance levels toward their child's slip-ups and flaws can be low. As a result, they may frequently resort to physical punishment for want of a better way of disciplining the child. -* Dr Ravi Samuel
Children indulge in behavioral indiscretions owing to many reasons. Lack of vocabulary to express themselves, acting out of impulse, experiencing anxiety, stress, or hunger, and suffering from mental health issues are some of the common reasons that cause children to act out.
While hitting causes the child to refrain from indulging in behaviors or acts that may beget punishment, it does nothing to modify her behavior. In fact, in children, hitting:
In fact, the adverse effects of corporal punishment go even beyond these. A study by Tomoda et al titled, 'Reduced Prefrontal Cortical Gray Matter Volume in Young Adults Exposed to Harsh Corporal Punishment', was published on NeuroImage (2009). It outlined the effects of harsh corporal punishment (HCP) on the brain. According to them, "HCP may be an aversive and stressful event for human beings that potentially alters the developmental trajectory of some brain regions in which abnormalities have been associated with major forms of psychopathology."
Being humans, parents also suffer from frailties of human nature, with losing their cool being one of them. While parents should always strive to not lose control and hit their child, they should also know what to do once they have transgressed the line. While feeling guilty is normal, it should not stop parents from connecting with their child and modeling behavior that they expect their child to grow up with. Also, parents should try to learn more effective ways of disciplining their children.