Guidence for improving my child's behavior

It’s normal for 4-year-olds to test limits, but consistent strategies really help. Try ignoring bad words during the moment and calmly explaining later. Set clear rules for phone/TV and don’t give in once you say no. Keep him busy with physical play, toys, drawing, or outdoor time to reduce hyperactivity. Praise good behaviour immediately and model calmness during his anger. Check triggers like hunger or tiredness. If the behaviour feels too extreme, a child psychologist can guide you with simple management techniques. You’re not alone—this phase will improve with routine and patience. 

Dealing with a stubborn and hyperactive child can be challenging. Still, you can help guide your son towards better behaviour with patience and consistent effort. Here are some suggestions to address his behaviour and language:

1. Set clear boundaries: Establish clear rules and consequences for inappropriate behaviour. Communicate these rules to your son and consistently enforce them. Make sure he understands the consequences of using bad words or throwing tantrums.

2. Positive reinforcement: Acknowledge and praise your son when he behaves well or uses appropriate language. Provide rewards or incentives for good behaviour, such as stickers, small treats, or special privileges. This will encourage him to repeat positive actions.

3. Model appropriate behaviour: Children learn by observing and imitating their parents or caregivers. Ensure that you model respectful and positive behaviour in your language and actions. Speak kindly and calmly, even in frustrating situations.

4. Communication and understanding: Talk to your son about his feelings and emotions. Help him identify and express his emotions healthily. Encourage him to use words to communicate his needs or frustrations rather than resort to foul language or tantrums.

5. Time-out technique: When your son becomes angry or uses bad words, you can use a time-out technique. Remove him from the situation and place him in a designated quiet space, such as a chair or corner, for a few minutes. This allows him to calm down and reflect on his actions.

6. Engage in constructive activities: Give your son plenty of engaging and age-appropriate activities to channel his energy. Encourage physical play, creative arts and crafts, puzzles, and games that stimulate his mind. This can help reduce his dependency on screen time.

7. Limit screen time: Set reasonable limits on using phones, tablets, and television. Excessive screen time can contribute to hyperactivity and attention issues. Create a schedule with designated screen time and encourage other daily activities.

8. Seek support: Consider contacting professionals, such as paediatricians or child psychologists, who can provide specialized guidance and strategies tailored to your son's needs. They may offer additional insights and techniques to address his specific challenges.

Remember, changing behaviour takes time and consistency. Be patient and understanding with your son as he learns to navigate his emotions and develop appropriate communication skills. Your love, support, and consistent guidance will help him in his journey towards better behaviour.

Hi Mittal, 

We all face these challenges around kids at some time of their childhood. Hope these tips help:-

1. Talk to ur kid about ur daily experiences, how u spent ur day, what challenges u faced, what mistakes u did, what lessons did u learn. Refrain from mentioning his behavior or asking his experience for some days.

2. Try spending some time with him doing the activities that he loves. Spending time with kids doing what they love builds trusting and life long relations.

3. Talk to him about various emotions and feelings and that its ok to experience them. The kids find it difficult to express as they themselves are not aware and end up doing mischief or bad behavior. 

4. Try to talk to them about good behavior through story telling or activity based learning. Give them examples of situations and what kind of behavior will give best results.

5. Dont discuss ur childs bad behavior to others in front of them. They pick it up from there and purposely behave like that to get things done. Always praise them and talk good about their habits that u like. This boosts their moral and urges them to behave well.

6. Explain to him about bad words and how they hurt others. U should always treat others the way u want to get treated. 

7. Give him educational videos to watch on tv / mobile. Let it be fun and learning experience. Kids learn good things from media if given right exposure. 

8. U r a great mother. U know ur child best. Dont give in to pressure and try to understand ur child and his behavior. The amount of time spent in correcting his behavior is not important but the process is. Take ur own time as this will not change in a day. Every child is different and so are their needs. 

Happy Parenting 

Hi my 6 years old gets quickly agitated and cries. These days he started shouting as well. Last year we moved to a new place, he faced with some bullies. Also during the covid time his elder cousin use to tease him a lot. So it use to make him really upset. I tried to console but all in vain. Now he just shouts and cries when upset. I really want to build his emotional well being. Please help

Hi,

As a mother it is common to feel worried with this kind of behaviour of your kid. You try to spend more time with him and try to know his interests.Engage  him with different types of tasks everyday, like music one day dance one day or else ask him to show his talent in acting gibing the example of any actor he likes.

If interested in colouring gibe him few drawings to coloir.

Ultimately you need to have Patience and sit with him to know his interests and need to talk to him with love.