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I am expecting my first child and often wonder if my husband would change after the birth of a baby like many men

Answered by Team ParentCircle

Dear Reader,

You are so close to the delivery date. I can well imagine all the anticipation, emotions, and thoughts going through your mind. Given all the hormonal changes due to the pregnancy, you are bound to be emotionally more vulnerable during this time so this is not the best of times to read things that raise doubts and make you feel insecure. You would feel much better if you read stories that make you feel relaxed, cheerful, and hopeful.

Because of the intense and natural bond between mother and baby, and the fact that mothers become extremely preoccupied with nursing and caring for the baby, husbands often feel left out and neglected. To stay connected with your husband and make him feel included, draw him into the caring for baby, connect with him in simple ways such as eye contact, smiles, a gentle touch. It could be a while before your hormonal balance and normal body processes are restored and you are ready to resume intimacy in your relationship. Have spontaneous conversations with him, share your feelings, even the difficult ones. Focus on every tiny joyful moment. A vast collection of these joyful moments become the inner strength that will help you cope with changes in routines and increased responsibilities.

You may also experience low moods, which often happen after delivery. If some of your fears and doubts start to bother you, here’s what you can do. Just watch them come and go, let them flow in and out, and do not dwell upon them. If you suppress them or try to stop them they will keep coming back to you.

Expecting your first child is a huge life-changing event in your life. Entering into motherhood, becoming a parent, raising a child – each of these will change you in many ways. Embrace the changes as they happen so that you evolve into the parent and person you are meant to be.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and we wish you a safe and successful delivery. Take care.

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