Why Some Parents feel PTA meetings emotionally draining?

Fear of what society thinks. Most of our Parents were in Govt. jobs. They are pensioners. Our childhood days didn't even have a call phone. We lived a happy life without much of pressure, lived in a modest house with 5 or 6 living comfortably with all our expectations met. The cost of living was cheaper those days. Now the fear sets in, thinking of what will happen to their economic conditions when they attain 40 years. They want their kids to be settled before they lose their jobs. Job insecurity, EMI, exorbitant rent, ego, all comes to play in the PTA, if their kid is not scoring enough, they feel their dream of living a comfortable retired life get shattered. Their financial condition is under threat kind of. I can say many parents say' YES' if I do a survey. Young Parents have a very'matured' long and short term financial plans, sadly not in parenting. It is difficult to convince them that academic scores of the kids are not important, unless you find a solution/ alternative path to convince them about their future dreams. I don't want any advice here from anyone, but would love to hear your feedback / comments on why some parents give more important to academic scores. It is every Indian parent's problem.

The focus needs to shift from 'Resume Building' to 'Character Building'.

I have seen my parents cry in every single PT meeting. The teachers did their best to make that happen. But I was a bit too stubborn to let any of this affect me.

I always knew I was intelligent. But education wasn't the domain where I could prove that. After having dropped out of college, I was a drummer for 8 professionals bands, worked at Walt Disney, trained over 7000 students in Life Skills, life coached a few top CEOs, became the first Indian civilian to have trained in Counter Terrorism Tactics in Israel and now creator of India's first Personal Security Education program and author of a book.

One thing I'd love all parents to think about is... Do you want your Kids to grow up and get a Job or get Work? These are 2 completely different things. Anyone can get a job. But it takes great intellectual capabilities to generate work.

I personally will build my kid/s to generate work. I have seen first hand that the education today is of no social good. Unless there is a guru who can induce large amounts of curiosity into kids and help them channel their energy to find answers, we will not see our kids be great individuals.

Would love to have physical interaction if anyone is from Bangalore here. We could form a think tank on alternative education.

Let me know if anyone is interested.

I am interested. Let me see how we can work on this. Would a skype helps till then?