Body image and your teens: How to help them navigate insecurities

Many teens often develop a negative body image and struggle with insecurities. This article explains how to help them build a positive body image.

By Parul Agarwal  • 10 min read

Body image and your teens: How to help them navigate insecurities

Puberty is synonymous with developmental changes. It is characterised by the maturing of sex organs, the growth and development of other organs, and emotional and psychological changes. During this period, being unable to understand the effect of pubertal changes on their bodies and minds can make children feel lost or confused. Also, these changes amplify the sense of awareness about appearance and make children conscious of how they look. Their feelings about their bodies ultimately determines children’s perception of their own bodies or body image. Apart from the self-perception of their body image, there are other factors that influence body image issues of children. Let us analyse them.

Influence of media

What adds to the sense of bewilderment during puberty is incomplete or inaccurate information gained from conversations with friends and through social media platforms. Also, nowadays, mainstream media—newspapers, fashion magazines, websites, movies and television channels—is full of advertisements of beauty products targeting almost every part of the body. Most of these advertisements create an illusionary image about a desirable body type, which triggers feelings of self-objectification.

A study on this topic titled, ‘The Role of Self-Objectification in the Mental Health of Early Adolescent Girls: Predictors and Consequences’, conducted by Tiggemann and Slater in 2015 was published in the Journal of Paediatric Psychology. It looked at self-objectification and its relationship with dieting and depressive symptoms in adolescent girls. The study highlighted the fact that reality shows, teen dramas, music videos, soaps and teenage magazines encouraged objectification of women. It also found that literature available on the widely-accessed Internet influenced the perception of many girls about their body image. However, the study revealed that conversations with friends related to appearance had the greatest impact on teenage girls. The study concluded that girls engaged in media consumption and appearance conversations were more likely to self-objectify themselves and suffer depressive symptoms.

Influence of parents

Besides the impact of friends and media, parenting practices also play an important role in how children view their bodies. Parental conversations about body weight, skin colour, diet and exercise regimens, all influence children’s perception of their body image. Especially for children with precocious or delayed puberty, the guidance and support of parents is essential. Otherwise they may develop psychological issues.

In the Indian context, there are several belief systems that stress upon the appearance of girls. These belief systems play a major role in shaping the parenting style of Indian parents towards girls. As a result, girls become more conscious and critical of their body image than boys.

Boys and body image issues

Boys also harbour worries related to body image issues. In India, only limited research has been conducted on boys and body image. One such study titled, ‘Correlating body image issues and alcohol usage in macho India’, was conducted by Cavale, Singh and Gupta in 2014 and published in the Delhi Psychiatry Journal. The study found that men with negative body image suffer from low self-esteem and, therefore, choose to drink alcohol. Also, a study of the relationship between body image and body dysmorphia found that boys were concerned about being thin and desired to look muscular. They were also concerned about scars on their bodies, thinning of hair and the size of their genitals. Toys with muscular bodies such as He-Man and G.I. Joe were found to impact boys’ perception of what a body must appear like, right from childhood.

With so many misleading messages being relayed about body image, how can you help your child?

Parental support

Think about how advertisements in audiovisual and print media encourage a person to get the perfect body. A careful analysis would reveal a determined effort to first create dissatisfaction about one’s appearance and then offer a perfect solution in the form of a product. Almost all the advertisements show images of happy users of products that promise to enhance a person’s appearance. Such advertisements go a long way in shaping the perception of body image in teens. So, as a parent, how can you limit the impact of such advertisements on your teenage child?

Help your child understand and focus on what really makes him happy. Talk about his hobbies like playing the tabla or his favourite sport, encourage it, ensure that he actively engages in it. Also, lead by example. Be a part of gatherings and engage in activities that add meaning to your life like meditation sessions, book readings, gardening or cooking. Looking at you would help your child connect with himself, boost his confidence and make him happy. Secondly, tell your child that, in real life, celebrities do not look like how they appear in the images we see around us. Tools such as Photoshop are used to create the perfect body image of celebrities. Talk about how healthy diet and exercise affect our bodies and research with your child his favourite celebrity’s lifestyle. Speak to a family friend who practices nutrition or medicine, or someone you both identify as a person who practices healthy living for advice - both for the physique and the emotions.

Be open to discussing and reasoning your child’s behavioural patterns that may be unhealthy for her. For example, share facts with her about how sleeping late is not a healthy practice. Talk openly about qualities that you admire in your child and pay her compliments like, “You are so funny, I love your jokes." Remind yourself that teenage is a period of trying to build new connections and expanding social circles outside of the family. Talk about qualities that one looks for in a suitable partner and factors that make a person look attractive such as being humorous, caring, helpful and a good listener. Your teen is likely to get secretive and turn to her peers for guidance and support. This could be a huge shift from her earlier self where she bared her heart to you. Share your feelings of concern about such a situation by saying, “I miss us talking about your day, do you?” or “I trust you and yet I am scared that you may not get the guidance you are looking for.” Another way to engage your teen would be to ask her to share her opinion about something and listen to her, and then ask her if she’d be open to listening to you as well. Give her a choice. Respect her need for independence and be respectful of the choices she makes.

By helping your child develop a positive body image, not only will you teach him to bond deeply with himself, but also respect and love himself more. Now aren’t those true indicators of healthy development?