are you a Pygmalion Parent?

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"The Pygmalion Effect is a phenomenon in which children, students or subordinates improve or diminish their level of performance as per the level of expectation of their parents, teachers or supervisors have for them," explains an article in Wisdomtimes. "It is like a self-fulfilling prophecy since whatever the person in the assumed position of power thinks or expects out of the person in a weaker position is what the person feels pressured to execute."

So, per this psychological phenomenon, the more you believe in your child, and the more you expect from him, the more likely he is to live up to your expectation. Similarly, negative expectation can lead to negative consequence.

The low expectation and negative feeling you have about your child might have a bad influence on his performance and deep psychological effects on him. "You might be behaving perfectly well on the outside but might not be thinking well of the child internally. This will have a negative impact on the child's sense of self and he will act according to the power of your expectation. Such negative thinking or treatment would substantially increase the chances of turning a child into a loser," continues the same article.

There comes the need for positivity! An article in PBSparents emphasises the importance of positive thinking and attitude. "Positivity shapes how long we persist at a task, how creative we are in brainstorming choices, how confident we feel as leaders, and even how collaborative we feel with family, friends, and co-workers." The article also suggests a few ideas to increase your child's positivity and happiness, such as, giving thanks, smiling, etc.,

To know more about the Pygmalion Effect and how you can use it to positively develop your child's personality, go through this ClipBook.

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