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Sometimes, it’s just about being physically present: Geeta Basra on men supporting women post miscarriage

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In an exclusive interview with ParentCircle, Geeta Basra talked, in length, about her miscarriages and revealed the expectations that a woman has from her partner during these traumatic times

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Sometimes, it’s just about being physically present: Geeta Basra on men supporting women post miscarriage

Actress Geeta Basra recently welcomed her second child, Jovan Veer Singh Plaha, with her husband, former cricketer Harbhajan Singh on July 10. The two also have a daughter, Hinaya Heer Plaha, who was born in 2016. A perfect family, one would say.

However, many are not aware of the fact that she suffered back-to-back miscarriages before giving birth to her son.

Speaking to ParentCircle, Geeta opened up about her journey and stressed why was it important for her to talk about losing a baby. “I think a lot of people feel that with celebrities, life is way easier for and we don’t go through difficulties or face hurdles like normal people do. Most of the time, they tend to see the happy side of our story and summarize our journey but in reality, there are so many personal struggles that take place. I went through two miscarriages before giving birth to my second child. And my motive behind talking about my experience is to reach out to other women who are undergoing or have gone through a similar phase and are struggling to cope with that entire experience.”

Geeta also urges women who have suffered from miscarriages to not lose hope and give up. “I think it’s a very traumatic period for any girl or a woman to go through these things and from my personal experience, I can speak and share how I overcame it. It’s very important for a woman like myself who has a voice and ability to reach out to a large group of people, to open up about such things.”

There comes a time when one has to move on

“Miscarriages are not the end of life, I understand it can be hard to be positive and look at the bright side of things but it’s important to not dwell on the past too much. Having family and friends as a support system also helps. In my case, I had a daughter at home so I couldn't be negative and sad all the time as it would be unfair to her. Yes, I took my time, cried my heart out whenever I felt but then there always comes a point when you have to move on in order to look at the future. It’s necessary to have a positive mindset, meditate or do something relaxing like yoga. The key here is to have a healthy lifestyle and body,” adds Geeta.

Every woman has certain expectations from her husband

During such times, we women don't feel like hearing anything and just try to look for some kind of warmth, comfort and emotional support. It’s very hard for us to go through it because it is our loss, we are the one's feeling it, experiencing it and physically going through it - Geeta Basra

Speaking on her mind about the relationship between a husband and wife after a miscarriage, Geeta revealed the kind of expectations a woman will have from her partner. "I would advise the male partner to be very patient, a woman is going to have a lot of ups and downs. There are going to be hormonal changes, your wife will cry about it, will be angry about it and, all you, as a husband at that time will be able to and, in fact, should do is listen.”

“Sometimes, it’s just about not saying anything and being physically present for her, holding her, hugging her, reassuring her that it’s okay and that you are there for her. During such times, we women don't feel like hearing anything and just try to look for some kind of warmth, comfort and emotional support. It’s very hard for us to go through it because it is our loss, we are the one's feeling it, experiencing it and physically going through it," wraps Geeta.

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