How to Build Self Confidence in Children

Self-confidence is an aspect that needs to be inculcated in children from the formative age itself.

By Asha Kurien

How to Build Self Confidence in Children

A confident child who is encouraged to do what he or she likes, grows up to have a firm head on his shoulders. He understands his strengths and weaknesses. This attitude shows in his positive actions when faced with adverse situations.

Encouraging words from elders go a long way to help develop their confidence.

Tips to help the child improve confidence

Raise them in a loving atmosphere

Children should have a feeling of acceptance and a sense of self esteem as they grow. It will reflect in their attitude towards their friends, schoolmates and in the sports and games they take part in.

Don’t forget to praise your child, where it is due

Praise their efforts, be it in studies or other extra-curricular activities. Even if they do not perform well, encourage them and provide reassurance that the efforts put in will eventually bring in results.

Be realistic while setting goals

Know their strengths and weaknesses. Make them focus on their strengths and slowly build their confidence and skills in areas they may not be comfortable in. Tell them that failures are bound to happen, and are stepping stones to success if backed by hard work.

Teach them to accept failures

Emphasise that one doesn’t succeed all the time. Teach them that failures are lessons they can learn from. Teach them to treat failures as hurdles to be leaped over. Instill confidence in them to “try again and again” till they succeed. Share your own experiences, the problems you faced and achievements derived out of hard work.

Cultivate a sense of adventure and independence

Teach them to be self-reliant and independent. Expose them to situations where they should think and act by themselves. Show them new horizons to explore, encourage them to take up new challenges that will give them a sense of belief in their own strengths.

Teach them the rules of the game

Reiterate that rules are meant to be followed and not to be ignored, as they are there for a reason. Emphasise on the limits to follow and never to go overboard in whatever activity they may indulge in. Help them to recognize and understand their responsibilities and to accept leadership within reason. It is also important to teach them to say “NO” where required.

Give children a sense of respect and love

It is important to teach children the value of unity and to let them experience the sense of togetherness with closed ones. Encourage good behavior and express your delight and happiness in their achievements.

Be expressive in your appreciation and show your delight in the positive actions. Teach them that what really matters is to give their best in every endeavor they take up and to have a positive outlook to life.

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