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    Doing Activities Together Is A Sure Way to Bond With Your Child And Build A Strong Relationship

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    Are you looking for ways to bond with your child? Try these no-fail activities to strengthen your relationship with your child.

    Toddler to Parent
    Doing Activities Together Is A Sure Way to Bond  With Your Child And Build A Strong Relationship

    Each day of our lives, we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. - Charles R Swindoll, American writer, and educator

    The relationship children share with parents plays a critical role in their development. A strong parent-child relationship not only becomes a model for children as they grow into adulthood but also, enriches their life with happy memories.

    To forge a strong parent-child relationship, besides fulfilling the physical needs of children, it is also important to address and satisfy their emotional needs. Spending meaningful time with parents serves children in various ways - the interactions create opportunities to share thoughts and ideas, to be curious, to explore their thoughts, ideas, and emotions.

    According to Arundhati Swamy, counselor and Head, Parent Engagement Programmes at ParentCircle: "Social and emotional skills are the foundations upon which a child will learn about empathy, build relationships and learn to get on well with others. For these skills to grow, a child needs caring parents who will connect with her thoughts and emotions, and meet her needs appropriately."

    Partnerships create lasting bonds

    Spending time with parents makes a child feel special. It helps parents understand their child's ideas and feelings. Anitha, a mother of two preteens says, "After dinner, we sit down to talk about what we have done during the day. And, when I tell my kids about how I spent my day, they ask so many questions. This helps me understand how they view the world, what they think about me and what I do."

    While it is important for parents and children to spend time together, what they do during that time matters even more. Sindhu, mother of 3-year-old Maya says, "We make cakes together. While I do the baking, Maya learns how to measure ingredients and her confidence grows when she shows the cake to family members."

    Bonding activities for parents and child

    Activities To Strengthen The Parent-Child Bond

    2-5 years

    As children leave infancy behind, they become busy learning new things. Moving around the house, observing and exploring, picking different objects, and examining them by way of touch, smell and taste help them learn through multisensory experiences. Your role as a parent, becomes even more crucial here, notes Arundhati Swamy.

    "A strong parent-child bond involves two-way responses, where the parent responds to a child's cues for attention.  This sequence helps toddlers with important tasks such as food intake, sleep, toilet training, and safety in movement. The child learns what he can and cannot control, develops a sense of free will and learns to do little things for himself. The toddler begins to feel bad and doubts himself when he tries and fails at tasks. Supportive parents show empathy and encourage the child to keep trying. For pre-schoolers, it is a time for exploration, adventure, and play. There is purpose and direction in what they choose to do. Parental attention during this stage ensures that the child returns home to warmth, understanding, and support. This is how strong bonds are formed between parent and child."

    Here are a few activities you can do with your child, to build a strong relationship.

    1. Read picture books together:   Reading together promotes interesting conversations between parent and child. The relaxed mood is calming, warm and friendly. Your child feels safe and secure in the deep moments of togetherness.

    2. Go for walks together: Exploring nature together is sheer discovery and adventure. So, when you have some free time, hold your toddler's little hand and take her out for a walk. Answering her questions and explaining things to her lets your child know that you value her thoughts.

    3. Color pictures together: Grab a coloring book, some crayons and immerse yourselves in conversation. You will be surprised at the things your child talks about - the funny, silly, and serious. The emotional bonding is priceless.

    4. Tell storis together: There are few things children love more than a good story. Take a trip down memory lane and recall some of the stories you listened to as a child or come up with your own. Building a story together is great fun and it stimulates your child's creativity. It makes her feel valued.

    5. Do chores together: When you're busy with household chores and your child wants to help, you might feel that he's getting in the way. But look at it as an opportunity to bond with each other rather than keeping him away from you. Make him your partner, show respect for his need to learn new skills, and feel useful.

    Activities To Strengthen The Parent-Child Bond

    6-12 years

    Children in this age group are more self-aware. They engage in more complex activities and interact more with those around them.

    Arundhati Swamy says, "This is the age when a child is immersed in her school life. She is building relationships with teachers, friends, and the neighborhood; and learning about many things through these relationships. She needs her parents to help her navigate her way through the ups and downs of these relationships. She is also preoccupied with learning to do things correctly and well. She wants to achieve and experience success in academic, co-curricular, and extra-curricular activities. The child will require a great deal of interaction with her parents to help her plan and organize her time and activities. Poor parental involvement or excessive control will cause the child to become lazy and dull."

    This is a critical period during which your child's self-worth must be nourished. Parents must meet their child's needs for discovery, competition, and achievement.

    1. Play board games together:  Playing board games with your child with enthusiasm and involvement are a stimulating way to get him to use his thinking skills, face up to challenges, experience intense emotions as he tastes victory and defeat. Your presence through these experiences helps you understand your child's strengths and limitations. Based on these important observations you will be able to guide him in areas such as emotional regulation, learning from mistakes, playing fair, making decisions, planning strategies, and critical thinking.

    2. Cook a meal together:  Cooking does not have to only about the process of cooking. The conversations can become more intimate - personal stories, likes and dislikes, innovative ideas, and much more. It makes your child feel listened to and appreciated.

    3. Paint a picture together: When you paint or draw a picture together there is curiosity, camaraderie, and fun. Spending joyful moments together creates warm memories and makes your child appreciate the fun side of you.

    4. Plant a garden together: The feel of soil on the hands, the smells of leaves and flowers, the sounds of nature are strong sensory experiences that relax and calm the mind. Planting seeds and tending for the plants evoke feelings of caring and nurturing. Your child and you learn valuable lessons about nurturing and caring for each other.

    5. Have conversations together: If you want to bond with your child, you don't always have to ensure that he's having a great time. Sometimes, just sitting down, chatting, and taking an interest in his life is enough.  Let the conversation flow freely so that your child feels comfortable talking about anything, without any inhibitions.

    Activities To Strengthen The Parent-Child Bond

    13-18 years

    Teenagers are on the cusp of adulthood. They are trying to understand their place in the world, how they can fit in and what they want to do. This is a critical age and as parents, you must realize that your child needs you, but on his terms. You need to be supportive, rather than controlling.

    "Teens are busy creating their own personal and social identities amidst preoccupations with their thoughts and desires. They are building strong relationships with peers and friends, learning more about themselves through group interactions. They also have to decide which (peer) group to belong to. Thus, they learn about loyalty, dependability, and trust in relationships. At the personal level, teens are looking for opportunities to use their abilities and fix their goals. They need parents to give direction and help them develop a clear sense of who they are and what they want to be. A lack of parental understanding could drive the teen to become intolerant and trapped in extreme and biased ideologies," observes Arundhati.

    1. Serve the community together: Visiting an orphanage or a home for the aged with your teen is likely to be a shared emotional experience that evokes empathy. The experience of helping people is very fulfilling, and when you do this together the empathy you feel for the inmates makes parent and child more sensitive to each other.

    2. Play video games together: Your child is likely to be better at video games than you are, so getting him to teach you something for a change is likely to boost his confidence. Your companionship is the cement that will strengthen your relationship.

    3. Travel together: An overnight stay, a short trip out of town or a trek in the woods gives your child and you exclusive time together, without the distractions of home and work. The spirit of adventure, the fears of the unknown, the challenges, and the risks faced together are all vital experiences that build strong bonds.

    4. Eat out together: Few things bring people together as food does; so make going out for a meal a practice that you both look forward to. Conversations are struck up spontaneously over food. It is a good opportunity to find out what's going on in your child's life so that you know when to reach out with help.

    5. Do workouts together: Working out or exercising together creates a special bond as you encourage and motivate each other to stay fit. So, go on a run with your teen, take a yoga class together or play a sport.

    No matter the age of your child, spending some dedicated quality time together is essential to strengthening your relationship. And, don't just limit yourself to the activities we've suggested. Decide what you want to engage in based on your interests. Together, every game you play, every meal you eat, every adventure you go on, and every conversation you have will deepen the bond you share with each other.


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