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Behaviour in 0 - 2 year olds

Are you a parent of a newborn, infant or toddler who is concerned about your little one's behaviour? Join our discussion to clear your doubts, share your journey, know from our experts and explore more about behaviour and how you can help them! ... more

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Asha Winfred Aug 20, 2019

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Team ParentCircle Mar 14, 2019

My 1.8 year old is very cranky. Every time we have a visitor at home and he/she tries to hug my child or pull him closer, he starts hitting them or cries aloud. I feel very embarrassed. Please help!

Roopa M Mar 14, 2019

@Team ParentCircle

Probably it's just a passing phase. You can gently tell him to calm down by hugging him as a mother and tell him in firm but loving voice -No, no crying, no hurting etc, but as you must have seen, visitors sometimes don't understand that some kids/people don't like to be touched that much. We usually see strangers picking up and touching others' children. Babies stay quiet usually but toddlers express themselves a little more. Of course he shouldn't be hurting the person who wants to hug him but be gentle with him at this point. I'm sure he is fine hugging mom, dad, stuffed animals etc.,

How does he behave in a play group? Once he is exposed more to play groups and play schools when he is ready, his teacher might hug him and he will deal with a bigger circle of kids and people. That will slowly build his social skills. Hope it all changes soon and he can speak up and say pls don't hug if he is uncomfortable and also enjoy hugs by hugging back whenever he is hugged . All the Best!:}

Team ParentCircle Mar 18, 2019

@Team ParentCircle

Dear parent, isnt it tough battling the will of a toddler! Firstly, its understandable that
you want your child to be affectionate and polite to your visitors. However, hugging the
child or pulling him closer, even by close family and friends, should be discouraged,
especially if its against the consent of your child. Teach your child ways to greet
visitors, ways that dont necessarily involve physical touch, such as Namaste or saying
hello. Secondly, teaching your child that hitting is unacceptable is important. Give your
child the vocabulary to indicate no for things he doesnt like. E.g., if he doesnt want to
be hugged, instead of hitting, he can say no while moving his head from side to side.
Teach him that instead of hitting, he can go punch a pillow or tear old newspaper.
Demonstrate these actions to your toddler and most of all, do them yourself when you
are angry yourself (instead of shouting). This training in emotion regulation can be done
even for very young children and is a very important life skill. With these two lines of
action, youll be giving your child a very important lesson in respect and drawing
healthy boundaries. All the best!

Team ParentCircle Dec 27, 2018

TIP OF THE DAY:

Parents often fret when their baby starts to suck their thumb and think its something they should immediately stop. But research says, thumbsucking in infants is something really common and natural and it helps in calming down the baby. While most babies stop thumb-sucking on their own by the time they reach 5, here we provide small ways through with parents can slowly help in reducing the thumbsucking behaviour in babies slowly, as they grow.

Effective Ways to stop thumbsucking in infants:

1. Be kind: Infants are not going to understand if you are harsh with them as soon as the thumb goes into their mouth. Your tone, actions can definitely give the baby signs that we want to convey.

2. Distractions: Notice when and why your baby starts to suck her thumb. Try to understand the reason. It can be because of boredom, hunger, etc. During these times, make sure you try to distract her from thumbsucking and instead indulge in other activities like playing, reading stories, music etc.

3. Positive reinforcement: Create a rewards sheet which incentivizes the child every time he/ she is triggered but does not suck the thumb. Offer rewards after 10 such incidents and these rewards can be simple ones like giving them stars, having a movie night with them, giving them extra play time etc. This helps the child in being more involved in getting rid of the habit too.

4. Covering the thumb: Thumb covers (plastic and cloth) are available and can be used as temporary solutions until the habit gradally dies off. Cheaper alternatives would be cloth thumb or finger gloves. However, they may not be very effective as they can be easily removed.

5. Dentist's help: If you feel there is no reduction in this as your child rows, seek your dentist's advice. It may be feasible to use orthodontic devices or other ways to deal with the impending effects of thumb sucking.