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    We would like your specific suggestions on how to address growth patterns related to an introverted and extroverted child?

    Team ParentCircle Answered by Team ParentCircle

    Dear Parent,

    Remember, being an introvert or an extrovert is a personality trait. An introvert likes to spend alone time to re-energize. Being with people all the time drains him. An extrovert, however, is fully energized when he is surrounded by people. If he is alone, he feels drained.

    Being shy on the other hand is a behavioral issue related to mild social anxiety. So, whether a child is an introvert or an extrovert, he could still be shy because meeting people makes him anxious.

    It is not advisable to try to change your introverted child into an extrovert or vice-versa. Remember, introverts are deep thinkers and many successful people are known to be introverts. Instead, try to support your introverted child by:

    • Inviting just one or two friends to play with him, instead of a whole group of friends
    • Not labeling your child as ‘shy’
    • Building some time into your child’s daily routine for some quiet activities like reading, painting, listening to music, imaginative play with toys, etc.
    • Allowing him to observe and take his time before he starts to interact with people he meets
    • Encouraging your child to express his feelings and name them, as he doesn't easily express his feelings
    • If your child is an extrovert, you can support him by:
    • Organizing playdates and parties with many children. Don't always plan everything when she is playing with friends.
    • Encouraging your child to play by herself, even if it is for a few minutes every day. She need not sit and be quiet. She can climb trees or sing and dance by herself.
    • Teaching her to take turns while talking and encouraging her to listen to what others are saying. Give her practice in taking turns to listen and talk at home.
    • Reminding her that she need not always be the center of attention at parties and gatherings. It is all right to share the attention with others as well.
    • Listening and acknowledging your child’s feelings, as she will not hesitate to tell you how she feels. Don't just brush aside her feelings.

    For more information, click on the links given below:

    10 Tips to Raise Your Introvert Child

    Tips for Parenting an Extrovert

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