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Jun 26 2018
Hello! I am wondering what are the common things noticed in toddler boys (ages 2-3 yr olds) in India. In the US, the communities and therapists I follow usually mention struggling with emotions like anger, etc. hitting, throwing, etc. and that it's important to allow space for feelings. Consequences like hitting kids, or shouting at them are highly discouraged. Some of my friends growing up in India believe that we didn't grow up this way and are just fine and that it's okay to be like our parents were. I'm curious as to where Indian parenting is currently and where it's headed. Please share any resources/thoughts on this.
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My preschooler is a pleasant child but can be very stubborn at times. He starts crying if he is unable to do something and keeps repeating it till he finishes it. In a way it is good, but sometimes it is for unnecessary things. What do I do, should I let him be or something else?
@Akriti Kumar Crying is his way of showing disappointment when he cannot finish something. At this age they are still building their vocabulary and trying to deal with all the feelings. What may feel unnecessary and childish for us may feel very important for them. For instance, wearing a seat belt on their own, trying to help us with our tasks, putting a pillow cover, tying a loop/laces, building with Legos, opening the elevator door, pouring something into a glass etc., Be very patient and let him experiment and take his time to deal with how he feels and try to add words to whatever he does and ask if he needs help. Guide him to slowly come up with solutions to solve his issue rather than crying. It might take time, which is fine.Try to incorporate the Peace process that Parentcircle teaches in the workshops. It will help you a great deal and also help you to establish and maintain a good bond with him.Slowly he will learn to deal with all the stubbornness when he sees how people respond to it at school. His teacher and friends also teach him a lot of things at preschool, where he is socialising a lot.Keep calm and tell him he can use words to express how he feels and speak to let you know what he can do to solve his problem. Hope this helps. Its just a phase and slowly maturity will set in with all your help. All the Best :)
@Akriti Kumar Dear Akriti, Do not worry. It is natural for them to behave a certain way and your child is still young and curious. They want to try a lot of things and when they fail at it, they tend to show their emotions immediately, either by getting angry, crying or any other way. They will learn from these instances and will themselves try to cope with such situations. If you closely notice, we adults also react the same way most of the time, if not crying, we shout, we show anger, we are mute, etc. Try talking to them. Understand why they are worried. Encourage and help them to do their task. Teach them how to do it if necessary. Give them some time to understand all of these. Be patient with them in these situations ad this will help them try further. Hope this helps.
@Akriti Kumar Dear Parent, dealing with a stubborn child can be really exhausting. And youre right it is good that he keeps trying till he completes what he has set out to do. In fact, he is well into developing focus, attention, concentration and determination. He is at an age when he naturally seeks to become independent in many ways. The crying bit is because of the frustration he experiences when he cant get it right. Frustration is a big emotion for a little child to handle, so he cries it out. All you need to do is show him some empathy. For example you could say, Son, are you upset? By recognizing his emotion and helping him to name it, you are teaching him a basic emotion skill to name the emotion. What seems unnecessary for adults could well be important for a child, though we may never be able to figure what its all about. Whenever a child cries its usually a signal that he is feeling distressed. Irrespective of what the reason is, he is looking for support from a parent. Sometimes just a warm hug is enough to help him settle down. Or he could just be hungry or tired, in which case you will just need to feed him or put him to bed. And the credit for his pleasant nature goes to the way you are raising him.
How to identify the right preschool for your kid? What is it that I should keep in mind before selecting one?
@Rani Lakshmi Hey, it is most important to ensure that the teachers and staff are friendly and empathetic. The school has the basic facilities, like bright and well-lit classrooms, clean washrooms, basic medical and first aid and a good play area. Ensure that they follow a particular preschool curriculum like a Montessori or Reggio or something else. Most importantly, your child should feel safe and happy to go to the school.
@Rani Lakshmi Thank you so much! This is very helpful...
@Rani Lakshmi I personally talk to students from the school and their parents and get to know their motive to select the school and their experience there. The school environment should be safe and encouraging. Teachers and peers and support staff should be empathetic and helpful. The curriculum and the subjects offered are also important to note.
My little nephew is very curious and loves to question everything. He can come up with over 10 questions in an hour and it sometimes gets very difficult for my cousin to address all of them nor does she want to stop her from asking questions. some questions are beyond our intellect and my cousin and i have also googled to find out the answers to his questions. This happens in school also and the teacher does get annoyed after a point as she is unable to complete what she wants to. How can we best deal with this?
@Rani Lakshmi How old is your nephew? Curious children are usually very intelligent and they amuse elders with their questions.By asking too many questions, he might be entertaining himself or asking genuine questions or just loving all the attention he gets when somebody pays importance to his questions and gives their time to him. Once you find out, it might be easy to find a solution. As far as classroom etiquette is concerned, the teacher could ask him to wait until the class is over to ask her anything or if the question is too silly, she can ask him to ask the question first to himself and ponder over it. If he still cannot find an answer in his mind, then, he can approach her. Maybe you could speak to him about how to conduct himself in class.Every child is different and even if he is difficult to handle sometimes, it is better not to discourage him from asking questions. It could be just a passing phase. So enjoy his childhood and curiosity while it lasts. Hope this helps. All the Best!
@Rani Lakshmi Dear reader, your nephew's curiosity, while adorable to an onlooker, can be quite frustrating for you and his parent. Its tiring, the constant onslaught of questions by a curious pre-schooler, but it is quite advantageous. It fuels inquisitiveness in children, makes them active partners in their own learning, and enhances their knowledge- much of our children's understanding about the world comes from what we share with them. So any parent or caregiver should always encourage a child's curiosity, viewing it as a positive part of his growth. However, in answering your nephew's questions you dont have to limit yourself to only giving him verbal answers. With the use of toys, videos, and demos you can explore other medium through which you could satisfy his curiosity. Also, try making it a two-conversation rather than a one-way lecture, by asking questions in return. Apart from telling you what he already knows, this will also encourage your nephew to think for himself and also join the dots. You could say something like, "That's a good question. What do you think the answer is?" and then guide him in the steps to figuring it out. If you or your sister have already answered the question before, encourage your nephew to recall the answer. Its unfair to expect that he will stop asking questions. Instead, try to give age-appropriate answers. Much of your energy and mind-space can be saved by deciding how much detail to pour into your answers. All the best!
@Rani Lakshmi When they are making tantrums*Ignore, they may cry louder. But eventually will settle down. Being a mother i know we feel desperate and pathetic to see our kids suffer but let me tell you ,you are doing it for their good and a bright future.*You can explain the consequences of why it is not your child's cup of tea. Relax, don't loose your patience you may have to repeat it a lot of times .*Be consistent, make the No sound like No everytime, let the people around the house be informed they must also deny and not add fuel to the fire. Otherwise it may blaze later and spoil the kid.*Be honest, don't give reasons or lie to them ,saying let me try next time. Instead explain them why they don't need it.*Finally, appreciate if they are being patient, or if you see a changed in the behavior. This goes a long way, the process takes time but believe me mothers can do anything under the sun, motivation, patience, and consistence is more important.
How to handle a child when they lie to parents?
@Team ParentCircle Your once innocent baby is now a talking preschooler. He is making up stories and you find a toy in his backpack that doesn't belong to him. He uses words like 'stupid', 'idiot' 'butthead' when referring to others.
@Team ParentCircle Very useful read..this has long been my concern as well and was perturbed how to address these. As they become older, I saw these habits slowly fading and kids are more understanding and aware of their environment. This article will help a lot of moms like me
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How to inculcate discipline
@Team ParentCircle On a typical day, how many times do you say NO to your child? How often have you felt the urge to say NO, but ended up saying YES just because you didn't want to upset your child? Read on to find out how and when to say NO without the guilt or stress.
Most of the time, my kid wants us to listen to her, (esp while playing) she says us to follow what she says, but when I ask her to do anything later, she doesn't listen to me? How to handle her, when she doesn't listen to me?
@Team ParentCircle 'Wake up', 'Eat fast', 'Put away your toys'.. the list of commands you give your child each day is endless. But, does your child listen? Here are some tricks to get your child to listen and cooperate.
How to handle a child who is a frequent user of mobile?
@Team ParentCircle Your young child insists on watching his favourite cartoons on your mobile while eating; he refuses to go to sleep without watching more cartoons on TV.You wonder if you should just completely ban the use of TV and other devices in the house. Lets face it - in todays world, technology is all around us. We cannot stop our children. But we can help them balance their screen time and use of digital devices with other activities.
How to handle my daughter'd bad habit like (putting two fingers in her mouth) how to drop it?
@Team ParentCircle As your child grows you would naturally want your daughter to give up this habit. You have probably tried to do so in many ways, and none of them have worked. Many infants get into the habit of sucking the thumb or fingers because of the natural sucking reflex, which they also find very comforting. Some babies cling on to an object such as a soft toy, or baby blanket. Yes, it is difficult to break the habit, threats only make the child feel insecure and bribes dont work. Usually, the habit wears off gradually. As children become more engaged in activities, play and learning at school, the habit tends to diminish and finally disappear at school. The same applies at home too. They will suck the thumb or fingers only when they are tired, hungry, upset or feeling alone. Connect with your child at these times with a warm hug and try to engage her with fun conversation. As long as the frequency of the habit is reducing, give your child time to gradually give up the habit on her own. Avoid making comments, instead pay attention to her stories, her play and activities.
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Hello,My daughter is 4+ and I don't wanna send her to school. Please let me know how to start homeschooling and with what curriculum. She is so moody. She learn or write by her own mood and never make a daily time table to study. Never like to have vegetables, fruits but sweets, something fried and milk. She never give anything to her 2 yrs old brother. How to make her study and how to make study interesting and fun. What are the resources? Please help.
@Sikandar Samad Dear parentIt seems you have your hands full with your 4 year old! Homeschooling your child is a great idea, and something that a lot of Indian parents are opting for these days. You have to start by choosing a curriculum that best suits your child's learning style. For more information and guidance, you can follow any number of Indian parent blogs to learn how to start homeschooling your child. Some examples are: https://afathersheartbeat.com/start-homeschooling-india/ and https://thatindianmom.com/ These also offer ideas on making studies interesting and fun. You can also refer to books such as 'Give your child the world' by Jamie Martin to access the list of recommended books for all ages.With regard to her being moody, children this age are moody because they are gradually learning to be independent and yet at the same time are still dependent on their parents. You can help you child feel independent by giving her choices, within limits, for some daily activities. For example, Would you like to paint or play with blocks? Would you like to bathe or brush first? Not sharing at this age is common. You can enable the siblings to take turns with the toys, and praise them when they play cooperatively with each other. You can say to your daughter, "Its so kind of you to share with your brother" but avoid offering material rewards, such as candy to encourage her.Its also a good idea to set simple, clear family rules and establish routines for her. Tell her why you're setting the rules and involve her in setting these rules,and deciding the consequences if the rules are not followed. For example, 'Fried and junk food only on weekends, fruits and vegetables the rest of the week for the entire family'. Be friendly, but firm and consistent when enforcing the rules, and remember to follow the rules yourself!All the best!
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I want to home school my 10 year old child. I need help.
@Sayoni Mondal Dear Parent, Homeschooling is a growing trend in India. Heres a link that can help you get started on the concept of homeschooling. https://afathersheartbeat.com/start-homeschooling-india/. For further details, you can also go through the website of National Institute of Open-Schooling https://www.nios.ac.in/. You need to be well informed and fully equipped to design your childs curriculum - what, when and how you want to schedule your childs education plan."
How to handle the situation when there are multiple people providing comfort zone to the child and parent have their own ways to handle?
@Team ParentCircle It must be difficult and overwhelming when your child is given comfort by other family members. Parents know and do what is best for their children. Your child seeking comfort with other family members could be because he is more comfortable with them or he knows how to get what he wants from them. Its difficult to set rules for your child when other family members do not respect those rules. One way to handle this is to handle him in ways that make you his comfort zone. To do this build a strong bond with your child by connecting with his emotions, his interests so that he builds trust in you and feels safe with you. Then he will be more ready to cooperate with you. Also, pick the few most important things you want him to listen to and let go off the rest. If possible, speak to your family members about the rules you would like to follow for your child. When you give them a reason they may be more cooperative. You will also have to gently but firmly keep reminding your family members and child to follow your rules.
How long should I wait before I start engaging my son if he is crying?
@Team ParentCircle While its normal for children to cry it's not always easy to figure out why they are crying. A child's cry indicates that he needs attention so it's best to respond immediately with a hug to help him calm down and feel comforted. He is then ready to explain why he is crying. Once he calms down and you help him with whatever he needs, you can teach him how to ask for your help.
How to make my son get to do his homework?
@Team ParentCircle One of the biggest concerns of parents today is getting their child do homework. Play is always more attractive than homework so use play and fun while getting your child to do his homework. Create a homework space and schedule. Play a fun game with your child before he sits down to do his homework. This will relax him and improve his mood. Use fun comments and playful ways to motivate him as he does his work eg your alphabets are disco dancing, lets make them look like soldiers. Allow your child to take breaks if needed. Do read this article for more tips on how to help your child do his homework https://www.parentcircle.com/article/how-to-get-children-to-do-their-homework/
@Team ParentCircle On most days, getting your child to do homework proves to be an uphill task. Worry no more. Reading this article will help you gather your wits and figure out how to make possible the impossible.
My child is hyperactive, only concern is engaging her in playing with toys and not on gadgets
@Team ParentCircle Your child seems to be very active and energetic. Play, conversation, reading and music are good ways to channelize her energy, help you and your child to bond and are best for your childs body and mind to grow. These activities lay the foundation for learning. Some of these activities would need you to spend time with your child, while outdoor play will help her make friends with other children. Group play is important for your childs social and emotional development. Please ensure that your child does not spend more than an hour a day on gadgets. Be with your child during this time and have conversations about what he watches on the screen. Its a great way to help him express his ideas and feelings.
My kid has started spitting on everyone for no reason. No reasoning can stop him from doing that. How to tackle such situation?
@Team ParentCircle Spitting can be one of the most annoying behaviours children exhibit. Children spit when they dislike what is told to them; or when a friend refuses to share. Sometimes, kids just spit for fun. They may simply spit on the ground because they think it's entertaining. If they get a reaction from anyone, it can make spitting even more fun. Pre-schoolers tend to spit out of anger. When they cant verbalize their feelings of frustration, they spit to show how upset they feel. Spitting can also be a self-defence tactic.??? The way you respond to spitting will play a major role in how likely your child will do it again. So, be firm, show your disapproval and correct your kid every time he spits. If the behaviour continues a reward system can be helpful. Create a behaviour chart that allows your child to earn stickers or points for managing his behaviour appropriately.
My son won't stop the tantrum for long time, its really long time how to deal with it?
@Team ParentCircle It is frustrating, but temper tantrums are common in pre-schoolers, especially when they have a need; or when they insist on having something. Our article on Taming the Tantrums will help you understand why children throw tantrums and gives practical tips on how to recognize and handle a tantrum. Please click on this link to read the article https://www.parentcircle.com/article/taming-the-tantrum/.
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What kind of education that new generation need? What will be next generation educational growing methods?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,Thank you for asking this enlightening question. In this ever-changing world, the need to provide your child with a proper education is very much needed. This new age generation needs an education that will provide skills to thrive in the future. We are so far bridging the gap by attending classes to develop certain needed skills. But, it is important that we appreciate the need to promote a learning culture and curriculum that identifies skills that need to be learned at an earlier stage that will enhance the standard and quality of what we do. The next generation educational growing methods might solely focus on childrens learning pattern. The ROTE method that is currently in practice might not work anymore. Because the importance and benefits of experiential learning have started paving ways for childrens success. It is being more and more recognized these days.
How to handle at the worst case when parents are not in a good state and child too?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,Thank you for reaching out to us with this important question. Every parent requires lots of emotional strength to deal with the stresses of raising a family. While trying to handle all the responsibilities of parenting, we feel drained and tired. Therefore, it is so important for us to take care of ourselves continuously physically and emotionally. We need to give ourselves me-time to relax and calm ourselves. Otherwise, the stress will build up. You will become impatient, short-tempered and easily frustrated. Your child will also begin to feel stressed. The atmosphere in your home will be tense and it will have a negative effect on all of you. Thats why you must do things together to relax walks, fun outings, play games together, laugh and enjoy family time. The positive feelings will give you strength to cope well with the normal stresses of family life.
What to say when the child says if dad was at home he would have given me?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,We can understand how hurt and confused you may feel about your childs comment. Every child has a different relationship with each parent. That relationship is built upon the childs experiences at home. Children tend to prefer a parent who is lenient. Mothers are often seen as the strict parent. Although you are firm in disciplining him, your child will still feel comfortable with you when you have fun with him, talk about his likes and dislikes, play and do things together. Your childs comment shows that he believes his dads presence is his defence against you. Ask your child if he is angry with you or afraid of you. Listen quietly to what he says. Let him know that anger is a normal feeling and that he can talk to you about it instead of depending on his dad to make him feel comfortable. Your child is probably confused about his own big emotions and needs you to comfort him and help him understand those emotions. This will help him build trust in you.
How to deal with a situation, where the child shouts continuously?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,It can be mighty disturbing when your child continuously shouts. One of the reasons for your child to shout might be to test out the power of her voice or she probably just wants to get your attention. You might also feel the urge to shout back at least to be heard over all the shouting. But, shouting back at your child is only sending her the wrong message that whoever shouts the loudest gets their way.Here are some simple tips that you can follow:Identify the triggers and plan how to minimize them.- Pick a time and place that is toddler-friendly. For example: Make sure that your toddler is well rested before taking her for shopping.- Make a fun game out of it. Ask her to shout as loud as she can and join her. Once she is done ask her now to be as quiet as she can be.- If shes shouting to get your attention, be more alert to her needs and attend to them. Is she feeling overwhelmed by her surroundings or is she hungry?- On an outing, keep her occupied. Let her bring her favourite toy with her. Ask her to help you identify vegetables and fruits for you. Point out what is going on around you. - Keep snacks handy. You never know when your toddler will feel hungry and make sure you give it to her before she starts to shout.Hope you find this helpful.
My kid is 1.5years old and he is very small to understand things so how can I make him understand?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,Thank you for reaching out to us. Your little one is growing fast and is probably walking around. His ability to walk allows him to explore and experience the newer things that he is surrounded by. He is learning to speak a few words and can understand simple instructions such as pick up your toy; answer simple questions such as Are you hungry? His ability to understand and relate to people and things is growing each day. Most importantly, he is able to understand your facial expressions and body language. Therefore, a lot will depend on how you communicate with him. Because he is so young, you need to keep him safe. Be firm in your instructions when it is about his safety and if necessary, physically remove him from the unsafe place. Physically he will now be able to run, take the stairs with help, throw a ball, scribble etc. He can socially and emotionally engage in pretend play, laugh in response to others, show affection, throw tantrums when he doesnt get his way. Cognitively (thinking and learning skills) he will now be able to identify and name his favourite toys, name the objects or actions in a picture book, tries to imitate what you do like sweeping, cooking etc. So, next time when your child doesnt understand something that you say. Make sure to keep your command simple and straight. For example: Pick up the toy, Roll the ball to me, Give me a hug, Do you want to eat?, Wheres your nose?, Show me the ball etc., Hope this helps.
Your inputs to put a child to bed when you are required to be awake? How to make chores fun for the kids?
@Team ParentCircle Dear Parent,Its funny how kids insist on staying awake just when we want them to go to bed! If she senses that you are pushing her to sleep, she will find a hundred ways to stay awake. So, dont let her know that you plan to stay awake. This calls for some clear strategy. Lead your child to bed with a fun song. Tuck her into bed, make her feel cozy and comfortable. Lie down with her, tell her a story or let her tell you one, sing her favourite song. Let her feel the comfort and warmth of your relationship. She will drift into a deep sleep, and you can stay awake in peace!There are several ways to make chores fun for kids. The first thing to do is to make sure that you choose age-appropriate chores for your child. Do go through this article to find a list of age-appropriate chores that ParentCirlce has listed out for you: https://www.parentcircle.com/article/how-to-get-your-child-to-help-with-chores/Please write back to let us know if you need further assistance.
How can I improve my communication with my child?
@Team ParentCircle It is good to see that you want to improve your communication with your child. The first step to communicating the right way is to develop a close and loving bond with your little one. Communication is not just about talking. It is about how you listen keenly to what your little one says and more importantly to understand what else is on her mind. Follow these tips to improve your communication with your child Accept your child unconditionally for who she is. Make her feel loved with warm hugs. Make eye contact when you talk to him.Teach her basic emotions like joy, fear, anger and sadness. Encourage her to express her feelings. I am angry right now because Be empathetic by listening to him when he talks to you about his feelings. It builds trust.Make sure you tune in to your childs body language. You seem very excited/quiet today. Was it something that happened at school?When she asks for something talk to her to understand what she needs.Whenever you make a mistake, always apologize to him and explain why. He learns from you.
Hi moms .. My almost 4 yr old often complains of mild pain in his legs... It's more these days cause he's gotten back to the school routine and physically het gets drained ... My question is, a good mild natural oil massage was my best option till he was small, so I can resume the same regime ? Please assist ..
@Neha Verma Appreciate your concern for your child. These pains are often described as 'growing pains', but is not necessarily linked to growth spurts. Your son's just returned to a routine school schedule. It may take him time to get adjusted to the change, especially after a long vacation. Hence the tiredness too. More so if he is an active child on the playground. Since he's used to a natural oil massage, you could resume it. A parent's warm touch is a sure way to connect with and build positive attachment with a child, so there's a double benefit!! Also see that he has a good breakfast and drinks lots of water through the day. If the pain persists for more than 2 weeks, you may consult your family physician or your child's paediatrician.
My child is going to turn 2 years old boy, but can not speak. What should I do? He has no listening problem.
@Startwriteindia Thank you for reaching out to us. It would be helpful to know more details such as: Is your son able to understand everything you say? Does he say anything at all? Does he have any vocabulary at all? If he is able to understand everything that the parents say but he is just not talking, then it's a simple speech delay, for which you may consult a speech therapist.
@Startwriteindia Please visit and consult a doctor at All India institute of speech & hearing,(AIISH) MYSORE.
I have some trouble to handle my son in some aspects. Now he is in 6th year, from early 8 months of his age he is not doing bed wetting nor doing pee in his pants. But since last two months, he is doing bed wetting most of the nights, and also he do's pee and in some times poo also in his pants without knowingly. and also he resists to go to wash rooms also. I don't know what to do regarding this issue. Please make me know to what to do? Please mam help me to handle this.
@Rupa S Mathad Thanks for reaching out to us. Since your child has problems with both urination and bowel movement, one could be impacting the other. Therefore it's best to consult your child's paediatrician about his difficulty. Do get back if you need further help.
My child's hair is dry and frizzy. It wasn't that way earlier, but I think from this winter it has become so. How can I restore the moisture back and make it smoother?
@Vinutha C Hi Vinutha, The hair dryness and frizziness is an important indicator of two things i.e. a mild nutritional deficiency or improper use of shampoo and conditioner. Improving the childs protein intake through foods like eggs, chicken, paneer and nuts, and including food rich in zinc like pomegranate, berries, dried prunes, apricots and dates will help to ensure adequate nutrition for this condition. Consumption of fresh homemade almond milk is also very nutritious for the childs well-being and hair. Along with this it is best to use an SLS(Sodium Lauryl Sulfate)-free baby/children's shampoo as it is gentler and prevents the total removal of the sebum from the scalp. Washing of hair twice a week is ideally enough for a child as excess washing can dry the hair further. Using a conditioner or a hydrating spray for removing and de-tangling the knots can also prevent hair loss and hair weakening. Application of a natural hair mask (like a mixture of avocado with honey or banana with honey and curd) and leaving it on the hair for 30 minutes can hydrate the hair and help avoid frizziness. - Dr Batul Patel, Dermatologist & Medical Director, The Bombay Skin Clinic.
hi all. my daughter is 3 years old. she started her preschool just 2 weeks back. from day 1 she's crying while going to school. that's fine because she's never used to be without me other than my mom andother in law. maybe she's feeling scared to be in a completely new and strange environment. actually she was so excited about school before she actually started because she used to drop her elder brother daily to school and she always insisted to go with him. but when she's actually going now she's so scared. once she comes back from school even without my queries she starts explaining what all she did that day in school. i reply with lot of excitement too. but after that once she's back home she goes into stress mode whenever she thinks about school. shes a very active and talkative girl. but now she's become so silent and moody all the time. she's not even willing to have food or sleep like before.. completely disturbed for her age. I'm worried now.. her teacher says she's fine in school. day by day she's getting along better.
@Bindu Hi Bindu. Yes, its very hard for you to see your little one change from being active to being moody. Since the teacher says she is improving, we may need to turn the focus on how you can help her feel better at home. For a start, take care of her physical needs of hunger and tiredness. Her routine has changed, and she may need more time to settle down with it. Once she has rested, do spend some time playing some fun games with her. You can introduce a game where you draw faces depicting emotions such as happy, sad, angry, excited, afraid etc. Then ask her talk about who and what makes her feel happy. Repeat this with the other emotions as well. Listen with interest, and do not make any comments about what she says. Kids are usually very expressive and freely share their inner thoughts through this activity. You could get some clues as to what is bothering her about school. Do let us know if this has been helpful, and do get in touch should you need further guidance.
@Bindu thanks a lot. will do as you said and observe the changes in her. hoping she'll be back to normal soon.
Hi All, My son is 3.5 yr old. He is very excited and fascinated about utensils especially big utensils which see on roads and he is more interested in playing with those utensils and cooking. I tried diverting but when we try to divert him or take away those utensils from his he becomes restless and starting crying or hitting us. can u plz suggest how can we bring from this... and is this normal that child that age so obsessed with things. please suggest..thanksPavithra
@PAVITHRA G Dear Pavithra this is very much normal. My son is now 4 years recently he stopped playing with pressure cooker and other utensils, otherwise in his 2nd and 3rd year he was so obsessed with these things. Slowly when they start schooling and other interesting things they will stop it
@PAVITHRA G Hi Pavithra,I can quite understand the concern that you have about your sons fascination about utensils. Its quite natural for children to want to use the same objects that their parents use. This is a stage when they learn a great deal through imagination. When children play with cooking objects or any other objects it is their way of exploring the world. Handling these objects help them develop large or gross motor skills. Apparently, your son has very keen observation skills. He is likely to outgrow playing with utensils the moment he is attracted to something else. Dont be surprised!
@PAVITHRA G Yes. you are right. the same happened with my daughter too.
Hi my son does not like to write home work in home if I say come n write he Ill say no no I wont write forcefully should complete his work not able to come m write his work
@Jyothi H Hi Jyothi. I can quite understand your distress, because writing is an important skill,especially in academics. Rather than force your child to write, understand that there is somethingabout writing that does not make him feel comfortable. Do check whether his grip of the pencil isstrong. It requires fine motor coordination skills. Pre-writing activities can help his fingercoordination improve. Also try playing a fun game with him before getting him to do his writingwork. This will place him in a better frame of mind to approach the writing task. Encourage everyeffort he makes at each step. It would be helpful to break up the writing task into smaller chunkswith small breaks in-between. Please follow these links for more reading on fine motor skillsdevelopment: https://www.parentcircle.com/article/10-pre-writing-activities-for-your-toddler/https://www.parentcircle.com/article/7-reasons-why-playing-in-the-sand-is-good-for-kids/
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