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    Share with us how we can raise our boys to be respectful towards women

    Behaviour

    Share with us how we can raise our boys to be respectful towards women

    At a time when we realize how unsafe we are today, don't you think it is important to inculcate the virtue of respecting the opposite sex in our kids, right from childhood? Share with us how we can raise our children to be gender-sensitive and respect each other. ... more

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    • Dec 3 2019

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    Team ParentCircle Dec 19 2019

    Cure is better? Or prevention is better?

    As how the culprits should get punishment to the maximum extent, equally the children at home are to be guided by the parents to the maximum extent. Todays parents are interested only in educating their children to the highest degree of qualification along with many skills horse riding, swimming, music, painting --- what not !! If we start listing, we can mention several. After making the child strain with so many activities every day, does the child has time to know some good things from their parents? Many years back our parents used to teach us poems from our mother languages,
    narrate stories from Epics, stories from history etc. How many of the parents at present are doing all those to their children now? It is not that easy to raise a child to an adult
    and make him/her a responsible citizen. Give education to your children, it is your responsibility. Same time, educate your children with your experience and learned things from your parents. Teach every male child how to respect a
    woman. How to conduct himself in the society, how to behave with elders. Once if you concentrate on these mostly, Within fifteen years, atrocities against women will come
    down by maximum extent. In most of our houses there is a girl child also. As how you give a thought the girl of your house should return home safely, please give a thought
    about your sons also if you do not raise them properly, tomorrow that child should not be a cause for some unpleasant incident somewhere. To CURE the problem is
    100% needed. Same time PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE

    By Nalini Chandrasekaran, Counselling Psychologist and Freelance Writer

    Team ParentCircle Dec 13 2019

    As todays children are tomorrows adults, teaching them to respect the opposite gender will lay the foundation for a better society.

    Sakthi Shenbagavalli Dec 7 2019

    *Let's teach our boys early*

    1.All human beings deserve respect and there's no grade based on gender.

    2.The gender difference is just bodily differences made by nature, which is nothing to do with their strength, capability and achievement

    3. Roles and chores are not gender dependent.Doing our own chores and household works are skill sets to be appreciated.

    4.There's no weaker sex. Male, Female and trans-genders should be treated equally with respect.

    5.The Nature's law is
    " There's no competition of dominance between the genders. Its about coexistence. Live and let live"

    6. Women are not in this world to serve and please men. They are not objects or properties of men.They have their own dreams and duties.

    Dear Parents,Formative years are really important. By age of 3 a child realizes its gender and by age of 5 a boy can say "kitchen set and baby toys are for girls". So let start early. keep on sharing, showing, talking, discussing, debating with family, friends, neighborhood, workplaces, schools, colleges towards a better and safe society for our kids in future?

    barghavi Dec 4 2019

    As you sow, sow shall you reap! A child is a blank page to be filled with human values. Sadly, this 21st century materialistic driven culture has cut the wings of child. Their creativity is compared with others and hence they feel inferior and jealoused. Morever, Parents, Society and Education system has narrow down the Beliefs and mentality such that they are unable to balance their mind in adulthood. Nowadays, mental illness cases are at the heights but that illness is considered as weakness and society laughs at them. A child with parent and without parent when comes in adulthood finds difficult to build a direction by themselves. Talking about topic perspective, I believe education system is the right of every child whether it maybe from poor, middle or upper middle child. That system should not be segregated by money. In that system, human values are to be taught and practically implemented. Furthermore, Today's situation is worse due to several factors out of which the most damaging factor is social media. Utilisation of gadgets in proper way aids anyone to build themselves in strong direction and vice versa. Violence occurs when a person loses its control on himself/herself by comparing and expecting the things like others. This century is patience less, dissatisfied, evil, corrupted, selfish. This is negative side of today's truth. If we want change, the change starts from the educated thinkers minds. The possibility of change is in Childhood age as this age can develop growth mindset whereas adulthood age is difficult to mend due to their fixed mindset. All in all, right to be taught in early ages on human values builds up learning tool for future growth of themselves and the nation.

    barghavi Dec 5 2019

    @barghavi As usual a very knowledgeable article from you. It is a great thought provoking article indeed.

    SNDJA Vivekananda Vidyalaya Dec 3 2019

    Bringing up a girl or a boy, a parent has the responsibility of bringing up their young ones as sensible, sensitive, humane , compassionate human beings. We consider our girls as Shakthi and Lakshmi but fail to give them the courage and strength.
    It is important to teach a girl to behave and dress properly, no doubt. It's even more important to teach the boy to respect a girl, to treat her as a fellow being. Indian mother's tend to have a soft corner towards their sons and pamper them to no end. It is necessary to teach the son to do his share of domestic chores, to make him aware of the girl's hardships. The best way to do it is to be real role models. When the son sees the father treating the mother with care, concern, respect and love, he understands the value of a woman. The parents are the first role models that a child comes across. So, this is of utmost importance.
    Parents should have healthy discussions at home about the treatment meted out to girls and how it affects the individual and the society. They have to ensure that their son treats a girl as an equal individual, a fellow being. They should dissuade gently if the son tends to watch programs which project girls cheaply. It is important that the son understands how it is a wrongdoing towards the girl.
    Schools and colleges need to do their part too in making boys understand that they need to treat girls with respect and care. Schools and colleges need to organise discussions and awareness programmes to drive in the message.
    An oath administered to the boys after a sensitising session about treating girls well will yield great results.
    The efforts will yield results,am sure. The time is today and now..

    SNDJA Vivekananda Vidyalaya Dec 5 2019

    @SNDJA Vivekananda Vidyalaya What a insightful and nice write up, especially that oath which should be administered to boys. Such great ideas and thoughts! ,Keep writing

    Shannon Almeida Dec 3 2019

    The same way as we raise our girls, we also need to raise our boys with the attitude of respecting their Mothers, Aunts, friends and sisters. It seems that in this busy ever-changing world we have lost sight of what is really important in raising our boys. We focus so much on the grades of our children and their physical, musical, artistic and mental abilities that we seldom teach them the importance of respecting our very own women. There is so much we can do in families to develop healthy attitudes towards women. Through modelling and teaching our boys, we can change entrenched attitudes and behaviours that will put an end to the cycle of violence against women. I always tell my boys to respect their women friends, to drop them home safely after a party, to never abuse or harass them in any way as they would never like the same to happen to their very own sisters. Holding doors and giving up seats for a woman show the right upbringing of a man. I want my boys to know that earning money is just one part of contributing to the household. The person who makes money is no more important than the one who does other jobs, such as cleaning, organizing and caring for others. I want them to appreciate a clean place by thanking and respecting my maid (woman) who cleaned it for them and also truly valuing the real work that it took to have that clean place. I want my boys to be committed and loyal to their female friends in word and in deed. I want them to lovingly work alongside women in their personal and professional lives, to live wholeheartedly, respect themselves and others and make the world a better place through whatever work they choose.

    Shannon Almeida Dec 5 2019

    @Shannon Almeida I totally agree with you . Respect is the most important thing that women demand and if boys are taught that from Young age I think most of the inequality problems will be solved. Well written and keep it up.

    Roopa M Dec 3 2019

    In our society, we call girls Lakshmis and believe that they are forms of mother Shakti, but ironically, even today , problem of discrimination between men and women clearly exists in modern India to a considerable extent. There are many incidents reported in the news every day, where we can clearly see that women are not respected and they feel unsafe. Female infanticide, kidnapping, dowry deaths, and murders are reported very often. At work place, women have to work harder than men to prove their intelligence and capabilities. They are also paid little less compared to men in most of the industries.

    In most of the developed countries, parents dont frown when they have a daughter, and girls and boys are provided the same opportunities like how it is supposed to be in a civilized society. Eve-teasing is a strange word to outsiders.

    To raise our boys to be respectful towards women, first and foremost, parents should treat their daughters and sons equally with the same respect and care. It is a common belief in our society that girls dont belong to parents (paraya dhan) and most elders repeat this sentence often in front of boys and express their worries that daughters are not useful to them in old age. They should not speak this way and allow children to absorb such thoughts.

    Cooking, serving food, cleaning, washing, taking care of babies/children are considered a womans job in most households. To encourage boys to be respectful towards women, fathers also should cook, clean, wash, and show interest in the daily chores whenever possible. There should not be any jokes about women that can hurt a womans sentiments like women are bad drivers, women are moody due to pms etc., We should consciously make an effort to encourage all girls to pursue their passion and allow them to achieve their dreams. Our govt. also should come up with more scholarships and schemes to help girls from poor background. We should provide a safe environment for girl children. When little boys are exposed to positive and uplifting environment where they see their sisters and friends are all treated well, they automatically follow suit- they will treat women with respect and will grow up to be good citizens.

    Roopa M Dec 5 2019

    @Roopa M Such a thoughtful and well written article . If only all people realise these facts there won't be any difference in either boy or girl ... Cause both are equal creation of God.