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    Post Workshop Questions [29th February 2020]

    All the post-workshop questions that we had received from the workshop held on 29th February 2020 on "Between Parent And Child: Small Steps To Strengthen Relationships" will be answered here by our experts. Look out for this section to get your answers.

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    Team Apr 1 2020

    My child has a different meaning of love. She feels love happens only with a boy and a girl. As a parent, how can I correct her?

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Dear Parent, the innocence of children can sometimes leave us feeling very confused. Your little girl seems to have formed an opinion about love between a boy and a girl, probably based on what she sees around her - her parents, movies and serials, pictures of couples etc. While this is natural, you can also help her understand that love occurs in many different kinds of relationships - parent-child; siblings, grandparents-grandchildren; friendships, other family relationships. Because love is an abstract word, you can help her understand it through actions - how we take care of people whom we love, share with them, remember them fondly, miss them when they are not around, spend time talking, playing with them, being kind and helpful to them. Do explain all this with examples in real-time, including how she loves her favourite people and toys. With time your daughter will begin to get a better understanding of what love in human relationships is all about.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    Not willing to obey despite repetitive reminders on his daily routine.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Dear Parent, its fair to expect your 10-year-old-son to take responsibility for his personal tasks. So, you wonder why he hasnt learnt the skills as yet. So lets get started on a step by step plan. First, it would require you to stop taking responsibility for him. He has learnt to depend on daily reminders from you. Next, have a comfortable chat with him about the reminders. Tell him that you dont feel good about having to remind him every day. Ask how he can help you feel better. Listen to his ideas laugh along with him at the funny ones, give him a thumbs up for good ideas and a high-five for the ideas that make him do things for himself. Children at this age are also extremely curious and excited about the world around them and are eager for knowledge. Their busy minds are often less focussed on routine things, hence the forgetfulness. So you may need to continue with the reminders, just do it differently. Give him reminders in a fun, light-hearted way. It takes the stress off you and your son. One more tip choose your battles, the ones that really matter and let go off the others.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    How to motivate my child to study?

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team For a child to do well in life, parents need to unlock the childs learning potential and create an interest in learning.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Research shows that of the many factors that affect childrens readiness to learn, the most important one is parental attitude. Here are some ways you can help your child love learning.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    I have two children. The age difference between them is 9 years. But one thing is that my elder daughter always complicates me that feel her sister in rude way so what to do for that.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Dear Parent, while there are some advantages of having an age gap between two children, you will require to manage their behaviour according to their age. Here are a few tips: Children go through different phases of development broadly divided into infancy, childhood and teens. In each phase, a child has specific needs and abilities. Usually its the younger child who wants to imitate the older child and do things she is not ready for. Sometimes the older child comes down to the level of and behaves like the younger one. Some of these behaviours might seem inappropriate. Be clear about your expectations of each child and enforce the rules accordingly. While some rules apply to both children, a few will be different. For example, one child is old enough to be able to go to the shop on his own; or stay out for a longer time; or watch a particular programme on TV. Give the older child the space he requires. Younger siblings love to hangout with the older one to the point where they can become a nuisance by hanging around, interfering, using their things as if its their right to do so. A common practice is to insist that the older child must take their sibling to all outings with his friends. This is unfair and only leaves the older child feeling angry and resentful. Many parents have the tendency to ignore or be lenient with the younger child because she is still small. The older child is often blamed or held responsible for the younger childs behaviour. It is the responsibility of the parents to correct and discipline a small childs misbehaviour. Hope you find these tips helpful.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    How to make sure that your child listens to you and gives you the respect. My child never listens, whenever he is in the public places like malls and other places.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Parenting styles refer to how we control and support our children and also the behavioural and performance standards we expect from them. Here are details that will help you make an informed choice.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    My second girl child is 2.8 years old. She always interrupts when we give attention to my first boy child. She distracts every time. How to handle this?

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Dear Parent, Thank you for reaching out to us! To give equal attention to both your children requires twice your energy and patience. Lets see how we can make it easier for you. Both children require your attention for care and emotional connection, and whenever you attend to one, the other seems to want more of you. So while you cannot be present for both of them at the same time, you can stay connected with each in a different way. For example, while talking to one child you can hold the hand of the other to let her feel a connection with you. Each child is unique and will have varying needs. As long as you respond to their needs, build a strong emotional connection separately with both of them, it will make it easier for you to be attentive to both, but not necessarily at the same time. Parents learn to observe each childs body language and understand what their needs may be. As you learn to read the cues of each child, you will become more confident in giving attention as and when they need it. They will gradually learn to share their parents with each other!

    Team Apr 1 2020

    He will not make conversation with me more. What can I do about that? I have tried a lot.

    Team Apr 1 2020

    @Team Dear Parent, kudos for wanting to help your child become more expressive! Your child could be an introvert, which means he might be more internally focused, i.e., instead of seeking stimulation outside, he focuses more on his thoughts, feelings, and mood. Being introverted is perfectly alright, and is a part of a childs temperament, which means it cannot be changed. However, you can definitely take some steps in helping your child express himself more: Talk regularly with your child. To draw your child in, it is a good idea to have ongoing and regular conversations with him. Chat during ad breaks about your favourite parts of the TV show, during dinner about the best part of your day, during car rides about his favourite activities, and during meal preparation about the steps involved. Model phrases, introduce new words, and discuss new concepts. Role-play conversations. Take some common situations your child faces daily and role-play conversations with him, say at the lunch hour, in the playground, or at an activity class. Take turns pretending to be each person in the conversation, so that you can help your child practice different responses. Read together. Reading is considered to be one of the best joint activities to do with your child because not only does it increase his vocabulary, it also helps develop an understanding of characters and plot. Through books, you could discuss various situations with your child, such as what do you think would have happened if Jack had not returned to the giants castle? Have him voice his opinions and choices. Give your child the space to make choices on a daily basis. Ask him why he made a particular choice. Encourage him to use I statements, such as I feel, I think, etc. Encourage journaling. Journaling is a very effective way of expressing ones thoughts and feelings. Encourage your child to journal his day-to-day activities, which will ultimately help him feel more prepared when talking about his day or his views.