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Sometimes words parents say can hurt and discourage children. Here are a few phrases you should never use in conversations with your children.
Being positive in our interactions with our children goes a long way in helping them stay motivated and focussed, strive to do well, and grow up into well-balanced individuals.
As parents, we always try our best to keep our children in a positive frame of mind. We also try to keep their morale high. However, sometimes, things do go wrong. Either inadvertently or when overwhelmed by what our children have done, we end up uttering words or phrases that shouldn't be a part of parenting vocabulary. The harsh words we use to admonish our children can lacerate their hearts and leave them feeling demotivated and discouraged.
The discouraging words parents say can be divided into four broad categories:
Threat: Parents are gradually shifting away from using the rod to correct their child to admonishing them. However, while admonishing many parents resort to issuing threats. Not only do threats make the child feel insecure but also discouraged. Here are some threatening phrases parents use to warn, stop bad behavior, or gain control of the situation:
Sarcasm: Only a few parents have the ability to use humor in a positive way to make a child ponder upon her actions and reform. Most attempts often end up with a note of sarcasm and hurt the child's feelings. Here are some typical examples of poisonous and discouraging sarcasm:
Abuse: Some parents adopt a harsh attitude when it comes to treating their child. Such an abusive approach can cause severe damage to a child's emotional and psychological well-being. Here are some common verbal abuses that some parents often resort to voicing:
Irrational statements: A lot of times, parents make statements that display poor thinking and an unreasonable attitude. Illogical statements leave children with a feeling of confusion and the sense that parents are imposing their authority on them. Here are some such statements that sound discouraging to children:
The phrases mentioned above are just a few of the many that parents use during their conversations with their children. Although most parents don't use these phrases to hurt their children, to the children the phrases sound very discouraging. So, it is best to erase these words from their vocabulary.