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    My 8-year-old son tries to turn every situation in his favor. How to understand this attitude?

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    Dear Parent,

    This is an interesting question. It seems like your son has learned how to get out of a tough situation by using a certain strategy. If this happens rarely, you can ignore it. However, if it is happening frequently, you can come up with a plan – that all of you will respond to his tactic in a similar way – you will not get carried away by his attempts to impress you. Instead, you will stay focused on the issue for which he was punished. Also, punishment is not the best way to help a child correct his mistake. Rather, the goal must be to make your son realize his mistake – turn the situation into a teaching moment - take him aside and ask him to explain what made him behave in a certain way. Hearing his side of the story makes him feel understood and you may even get some clues about what he needs. Does he want to be given responsibility in the class? When given a responsibility, he must not be allowed to use it to get out of trouble. Instead, it will build his self-esteem. Children who feel good about themselves tend to be better behaved and more cooperative.

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