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    As working parents, we get less time with our child. We want to spend quality time but my 3.5-year-old kid is cranky and crying for minor things. We love her, but how do we handle her?

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    Dear Parent,

    Having a full-time job and running a home is quite a challenge, especially when it comes to spending time with your child. Difficult as it may seem, you can still do it well by following these tips:

    • Reconnect with your child. As soon as you get back home, tired as you may be, your child is waiting for your attention. So make eye contact, smile warmly, greet and hug her. She needs to know how happy you are to see her again after the long day. This immediate connection makes her feel happy, safe, and loved. Spend a few minutes fussing over each other. But if you’re feeling very tired, tell her that you will rest for a few minutes and invite her to sit along with you. Her cranky and crying behaviors mean that she needs you to comfort her. These behaviors are likely to reduce when you continue the practice of reconnecting with her every day.
    • Spend quality time. 10 to 15 minutes a day is all you need. Play a little game, have fun chatting, singing, spending time together in the kitchen (tell her she is your chief assistant, let her help you by handing things to you, bringing things for you. Or let her help you fold clothes, put things away. Just remember to make it feel like a whole lot of fun. Little children love to do things that make them feel important and independent. It builds their self-confidence.
    • Have bedtime routines. Read or tell her a short story, or just chat about the day. Get her ready for bed with little songs and games that help take away the stress of following the go-to-bed routines.

    Spending time together in these and many other little ways helps you build a deep connection with your child. You don’t need to spend hours with her. A few minutes of your complete attention listening to her questions, stories, enjoying her company, laughing and giggling together – that’s all it takes. Filled with your complete presence, she feels emotionally safe and secure and trusts you. She knows that she can always rely on you to comfort her and help her when she needs it. You could spend extra time with her over the weekends too.

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