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My 13-years-old son is well-behaved with a very pleasing personality. But he is introverted and does not raise his voice even if something upsets him. How can I encourage him to raise his voice when required?

Answered by Team ParentCircle

Dear Parent,

It’s nice to note that you are aware of your child’s strengths and limitations. Learning to be assertive is an important skill your child must learn. First, let’s understand the difference between an introverted child and a timid child. Introverts enjoy spending time with themselves because they are deep thinkers, very observant, and take their time to respond. Introverts do socialize but with a few select friends. They can also be part of a large social group but will retreat to their private space often to re-energize themselves. This is in total contrast to extroverts who need to be interacting with people to feel energized.

A timid child avoids confrontation and finds it difficult to stand up for himself, either because he may have low esteem or may just lack the skills to be assertive. So, let’s get him started on some assertive skills training:

• Role-play scenarios with your son where you demonstrate assertiveness.
• Ask your son to point out body language and words that expressed self-confidence in the role-play.
• Use reverse-role-play scenarios to help him practice being assertive.

During the role plays, focus on how to express emotions and needs by using statements such as, “I feel…”.

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