As parents, we should ensure that our children are not negatively affected by peer pressure. How can parents help children handle peer pressure? Share with us! ... more
Sep 25 2019
Recently two of my friend s wore 3/4th Palazzo in kitty party which I liked very much and hunted for it and bought two. Being an adult when I can't control peer pressure then how can kids do. peer pressure is common among children. My eight year old son whenever sees some new pen with his friends in the school comes home and asks for the same. He is so stubborn that some how he pressurises his papa and finally buys it. Making children understand that peer pressure should be avoided is very difficult. We should make them understand that it's not a good thing. If this behaviour continues it goes on to adult stage and then it will be very difficult to change at that age. I keep on telling my children that they should be self satisfied and should not get attracted What others have. It will not take them anywhere. Others have what they need and we should buy only what we need and should not waste money. This advice has brought much change in them and hope to see many more changes in them.
@Rashmi Well said Rashmi. Thank you for sharing your views!
Each child is unique and special. As parents, we should inform this to our kids and remind them frequently. Comparisons and competitions may result in worry and nothing beneficial. If our children understand this fact, they never fall into the trap of peer pressure. Gadgets, toys, videogames, dresses are just things which will never provide any star value to any individual. This should be insisted and modeled by the family. Buying a toy car similar to neighbor's kid's will encourage peer pressuring. Such actions should be avoided. Similarly self-control and self -concept should be taught children from early ages. Most importantly our needs and goals are set up by ourselves only. Not by other's influences. This should be clearly communicated to children by both our words and deeds.
@Sakthi Shenbagavalli This is so well-articulated by you, Sakthi. Thank you so much for sharing your view point with us :)
@Sakthi Shenbagavalli It is such a great way to look into this issue . Very well explained and nice way of putting up your thoughts.
@Sakthi Shenbagavalli Thank you so much!
Different milestones Parents has to go-through for upbringing their children. Amongst them is one pressurised level to handle peer pressure. First and foremost is home environment that affects highly in their behaviour. Parents has to accept that challenge that they won't compare that child with anyone, they be a passionate and optimistic listener, provide comfort,safety security, love, honesty, firm in decision making, confident and happy Go person at home. Second, child follows actions rather than words. Parents has to be good role model to them. Third, external factors and situations are out of control so teach child not to get affected by them instead focus on what's important, ignore the distractions, learn from mistakes, respond to critics but don't harm others and yourself from that critics. By this way, a child in turn will learn to set boundaries and be confident and genuinely respect themselves and others.
@barghavi Good to read your views ! I agree with it and parents should be totally in charge before a child can fall into peer pressure!
As parents , first we need to understand that all children are not alike. Then we have to build in this self confidence in our kids that just like all fingers aren't alike , so arewe people . It is quite normal to have peer pressure but then the kid should be made aware that it's not necessary to do what everyone does. Let the child think before falling for it and parents have the responsibility to make them confident enough to stand for themselves.
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