Learning - Life Skills | 5-18 yrs

Understanding Your Shy Child

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Shyness is a personality characteristic. The quality of being shy doesn't necessarily mean a child is lacking in confidence. True, children found wanting in confidence in social situations can be shy. But it can also mean that such children are introverts and reserved by nature. They may take time to open up to others, not talk much and often keep to themselves. If your child's shy nature doesn't interfere with her school or daily life, it need not be a cause for concern. But if your child is sheepish or self-conscious because of low levels of confidence, it can surely be a problem. She can have difficulty in making friends or sharing her concerns in school. Later, it can also affect her personal and professional adult life. Nervousness during job interviews and in the workplace, and difficulty in communicating with other adults could become major issues for her. Therefore, it is very important for you, as a parent, to understand your shy child and address her concerns.

In an article titled She’s Just Shy by Amy McCready, published in positiveparentingsolutions.com, the author states, 'Children have different temperaments and some are less outgoing than others, but we can teach coping skills to help children feel more comfortable in social situations and with new people.'

That’s where your role as a parent comes in. If your child is coy around new people, practise communication techniques and social skills through role play and Q&A sessions at home. Help your child come out of her shell by taking her to social gatherings with you. Refrain from overprotecting your child or rescuing her in social situations. Don’t pressurise her to interact with other children. Be gentle with your meek, demure or hesitant child.

For more helpful tips, you can read the articles in this ClipBook.

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