Parenting - Teens | 13-18 yrs

Teen Crushes

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The star-gazing look, random smiles, constantly buzzing phone…all signs that your teen might be having a crush!

This might startle you at first, then anger you, and then worry you. But your teen’s crushes, how much ever concerning it is for you, is not all a bad thing. An article in KidsHealth explains, “Crushes are a little bit like the romantic love adults feel toward one another. And in a way, a crush can help us think about the kind of person that we want to love when we grow up. They help us understand which qualities we notice and like in another person.”

But what should you do if you get to know about your teen’s crush? “Take it as a signal to help them deal with this wonderful new phase in their lives, as opposed to lamenting about how much they are growing up or boasting that they aren't allowed to date yet because they are too young,” says an article in verywell.com. The article also advises you to, however, set limits and talk to them about healthy relationships.

However, heartbreaks are as much an inevitable part of your teen’s life as a crush is. While helping her handle her break-up, you need to be extremely supportive, sensible and sensitive. An article in Mamiverse.com advises, “They already are hurting, and likely feeling insecure, and the last thing you want to do is add to that. Don’t ask nosy questions, but make sure you are there for when they are ready to talk. They will want to talk eventually, let it happen naturally. Don’t judge, just listen.”

While your teen is going through the 'crazy puppy love' phase, it is your responsibility to help them pass this in a semi-grown up and mature fashion. Here is a ClipBook that gives you tips to deal with your teen who has a crush.

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