The famous English writer, Samuel Johnson, once said, “Praise, like gold and diamonds, owes its value only to its scarcity.” While it is good to praise children for their achievements, praising them for everything they do can push can be harmful. It can make your child crave for praise and attention, but make him wary of criticisms. This will lead to problems later in life.
According to Lisa Firestone's article, 'Are we overpraising our children?', published in Psychology Today, "Research has shown that there are positive effects of praising children, but it depends on what kind of praise we’re dishing out. A recent Stanford Study of toddlers showed that praising effort, not talent, leads to greater motivation and more positive attitudes toward challenges down the road."
So, how can parents draw the line and decide on how much praise is too much? Heather Hatfield in her article, 'The Right Way to Praise Your Kids', published in WebMD, says that parents should praise the effort, not the outcomes. She further says, "Experts say that the quality of praise is more important than the quantity. If praise is sincere and genuine and focused on the effort, not the outcome, you can give it as often as your child does something that warrants a verbal reward."
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