“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Lord Buddha
Anger issues in both parents and children can make parenting seem like a tough job. Parental anger and child anger are interconnected and thus one affects the other. But, there is no need to despair. Anger can be controlled and utilised in a positive way.
It is perfectly normal for you as a parent to feel angry with your children because of their temper tantrums like refusing to eat food or behaving in a defiant way, not following the rules. Empoweringparents.com says that usually parents get upset when their children are not doing what they want them to do, or are not listening or complying. A part of skilful parenting is to control your anger and deal with such situations in a calm manner.
One of the ways of using your anger positively is by making your anger your ally. According to an article titled ‘Controlling Parental Anger’ in askdrsears.com, ‘Emotions serve a purpose. Healthy parental anger compels you to fix the problem, first because you’re not going to let your child’s behavior go uncorrected, and second because you don’t like how the child’s misbehavior bothers you. This is helpful parental anger.”
You can also teach your children how to cope with their own anger. Some of the methods The Huffington Post lists are: recognising and acknowledging your child’s feelings, practising empathy, teaching your child problem-solving skills and ways to relax.
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