Parenting - Behaviour | 3-18 yrs

Is Your Child A Pushover?


A pushover child is always an easy mark for bullies. If not rectified in time, this lack of assertiveness can become a habit that your kid can carry into her adulthood. And this can be quite a burden and a recipe for problems in both her personal and professional life. But how do you know if your child is really a pushover?

Well, it’s quite simple. Your child’s apathetic and uninvolved responses to most situations in life are a big sign. Is she always a victim of bullying? Does she choose to remain quiet about unfair or unjust treatments meted out to her? Does she suffer from poor self-esteem? These are truly some signs of a pushover. Docile or shy kids often become passive kids. They have diminished willpower and lack the resolve to tackle even simple situations in life. It is important that kids are able to defend themselves when they need to and speak up when they have to – for their own good. Your kid also needs to understand the difference between calm and quiet and indifferent and laidback.

In an article titled How to Help Passive Children Become Assertive, published in, the author Liza Blau says, “To help your child become more assertive, go through a variety of common situations together and teach him how to appropriately assert himself.” It can be an effective method to teach your kid to stand up for herself. This will also help her achieve professional success.

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