Parenting - Behaviour | 3-12 yrs

How To Discipline Without Tears


“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.” – Plato

These are deep words by the famous philosopher but acting on them is not that simple. Parenting is tough and it is easy to for parents to lose their temper every now and then. This might manifest as punishments or harsh reprimands for certain bad actions or behaviour of your kids. But ultimately, disciplinary ways that lead to tears or even anger can become counterproductive to your purpose.

According to an article titled 8 Ways Discipline and Punishment are Not the Same, by Deborah Godfrey, published in the website in February 2014, “Punishment is used for the purposes of controlling and retribution.” True. You can always teach your kids about right and wrong without causing them to tear up or become fearful of you. You can teach positive conduct to kids through your own good behaviour, logical explanations and by defining boundaries at home for what is acceptable to you and what is not. Time-outs may work for toddlers for a while. But it may not be as effective for older kids. Instilling discipline in your kids through the means of spanking, taking away of privileges and scolding can lead to weeping and angst. Clear communication and proper consequences to an undisciplined act are better ways to help your child. These will also help them grow into well-behaved adults who achieve professional success.

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