Do you often find yourself wondering when your child will stop defying you and start listening to you? Does your child engage in downright disobedience when you tell him to do something? Here’s some help for you.

When children are defiant, their goal is not to annoy, disrespect or frustrate us. Rather, their goal is to feel powerful and significant. Remember, kids are defiant for a reason. They often feel controlled and look for some ways through which they will feel powerful.

Huffington Post has laid down seven ways to drive away defiance from your child that includes, not taking it personally, considering why your kids refuse, positive self-talk, allowing a child express her feelings of rebellion,engaging in a warm way, holding boundaries on unsafe behaviour, keeping a positive view of your child and using some humour and power play.

In an article published in cnn.com, titled “Parent Acts: How to deal with a defiant child”, Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University, says “the problem with defiance is that it puts something in the child.” He further adds that if we change the way we convey instructions to our children , they will comply with our request.

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