Parenting - Behaviour | 3-13 yrs

Dealing With A Defiant Child


Do you often find yourself wondering when your child will stop defying you and start listening to you? Does your child engage in downright disobedience when you tell him to do something? Here’s some help for you.

When children are defiant, their goal is not to annoy, disrespect or frustrate us. Rather, their goal is to feel powerful and significant. Remember, kids are defiant for a reason. They often feel controlled and look for some ways through which they will feel powerful.

Huffington Post has laid down seven ways to drive away defiance from your child that includes, not taking it personally, considering why your kids refuse, positive self-talk, allowing a child express her feelings of rebellion,engaging in a warm way, holding boundaries on unsafe behaviour, keeping a positive view of your child and using some humour and power play.

In an article published in, titled “Parent Acts: How to deal with a defiant child”, Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University, says “the problem with defiance is that it puts something in the child.” He further adds that if we change the way we convey instructions to our children , they will comply with our request.

Know more about related topics like children with oppositional defiant disorder, things not to do when faced with defiance and the causes of defiant behaviour in teenagers by flipping through the pages of this ClipBook.


When Children Are Defiant

When children are defiant, their goal is not to annoy, disrespect, or frustrate us. Rather, their goal often is to feel significant. Yet, their defiance threatens our own similar need. As we both strive to feel significant, we can easily get enmes...

A Day In The Mind Of A Defiant Child

If you’re the parent of a defiant child, you’ve probably wondered what makes him so angry at life and angry at you. Here’s how some of the thinking errors used by the child above break down—and what you can do to challenge these faulty ways of thi...

What Are The Causes Of Defiant Behaviour In Teenagers?

Parenting a teenager can be challenging, especially when the teen behaves defiantly. During the teen years, children are working to build identities and understand the world around them while experiencing hormonal fluctuations and other physical c...

Children With Oppositional Defiant Disorder

All children are oppositional from time to time, particularly when tired, hungry, stressed or upset. They may argue, talk back, disobey, and defy parents, teachers, and other adults. Oppositional behavior is often a normal part of development for ...

How To Deal With A Defiant Child

Being a parent means having to deal with your child’s disobedience at times. We don’t always like it, but it happens. Sometimes we have no clue what to do and look to parenting experts for help.

Things To Do When Your Kid Is Being Defiant

There is something about your child looking you straight in the eye and saying, "No, I won't do that," "I hate you" or "You can't make me" that challenges you to the core. Here are seven strategies to help you stay composed when you are faced with...

Things Not To Do When Faced With Defiance

Parents oftentimes find themselves drained as they come up against this behavior, and wind up feeling hopeless about how to handle their child defiance situation. They might also start worrying about what the future holds for such a strong-willed ...

More for you