Children constantly feel the need to attract their parent’s attention. Such behaviour is acceptable and even justified on the part of children. However, excessive attention seeking behaviour can become a problem. If your child is constantly whining or seeking your attention, it is a good idea to rule out the causes of such behaviour; sometimes, a physical ailment or anxiety disorder can also cause a child to seek attention. But if your child is happy and healthy yet constantly calling for your attention, it is time for you to address the situation.
According to psychcentral.com, “By trial and error, growing children figure out what makes adults continue to give them attention and what drives them away.” A child may seek attention for many reasons. But if you constantly ignore your child’s positive behaviour, she will find other ways to draw your attention. And if you begin to pay attention to her negative behaviour, this will become her way of seeking your attention. Familyeducation.com says, “Negative attention teaches children how to manipulate and get their way. They learn to be troublesome. They learn how to interrupt you. They learn how to control you. Negative attention teaches children how to tease, nag, and annoy. It teaches children to aggravate, irritate, and exasperate. We teach this by not paying attention to our children when they are behaving appropriately, and by paying attention to them when they are misbehaving.”
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