Parenting - Behaviour | 0-18 yrs

8 Things Parents Should Never Do

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“What it's like to be a parent: It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love,” wrote Nicholas Sparks in the novel ‘The Wedding’.

Parenting is a tough job, as once your child is born, he is going to need you for the rest of his life. Although, parenting becomes easier as children grow up, the job never ends. It demands lifelong care and commitment. Bringing up a child with the right mix of morals, values and discipline is not easy. With advice coming in from all directions, it becomes difficult for parents to decide when to enforce rules, when to relax them and when to let children have their way. And parents being humans as well, they occasionally behave in irrational ways that can create confusion and trouble the minds of their children. During these periods, some parents may even physically or emotionally abuse their children.

Bad parenting practices make both parents and children suffer. Hitting is one of the common ways parents punish children. An article titled ‘10 Reasons Not to Hit Your Child’ in askdrsears.com says, “Spanking demonstrates that it’s all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people, and stronger people to hit weaker people. Children learn that when you have a problem you solve it with a good swat.”

Some of the other forms of abuse that parents subject their children to are yelling, cursing, comparing, and bribing their children.

Parents must understand that adverse parenting practices can have a lifelong impact on children. Children exposed to bad parenting can suffer from depression, lack of confidence, anxiety, insecurity etc.

Want to know more about things you should not do as a parent? Read this ClipBook.

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#1 Hit

Physical punishment shows that it’s all right to vent your anger or right a wrong by hitting other people. This is why the parent’s attitude during the spanking leaves as great an impression as the swat itself.

#2 Yell

Research claims that yelling at kids is as harmful as hitting or spanking has many parents worried. Learn about the long-term effects of yelling for your family.

#3 Ignore

When parents do not respond to a child’s needs or ignore her feelings, the child learns her needs will not be met and that she must take care of herself. She will often have difficulty building relationships with others and may behave aggressively.

#4 Curse

When parents curse at their children, the obscene verbal attack can be emotionally devastating, according to LoveOurChildrenUSA.org. Children are emotionally vulnerable and depend on their parents' reactions to form healthy self-esteem...

#5 Compare

Every child is different. In the present age, where competition has spread its tentacles in every walk of life, it is crucial to teach our children to be grounded. And comparing them at each step will just not help.

#6 Bribe

It's a well-accepted tenet of parenting that bribes are a bad idea, used only by desperate parents. But why do "experts" always give this advice? Because children shouldn't be "rewarded" for behavior they should do anyway.

#7 Put Too Much Pressure

There are a lot of differing views about how much parental pressure children need to perform at their best. Some people argue that children aren’t getting enough pressure from parents.

#8 Praise

For years, parents have been encouraged to pile on the praise in an effort to nurture a child's sense of worth. But a steady diet of praise can set your child up for failure in later life...

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