@Anonymous Oh, it must be so difficult for you to leave your kid crying when you have to leave for work. You must be experiencing so many mixed emotions which can leave you feeling very drained and tired. While you may not have time in the morning, make time when you get back from work to chat with your daughter about it. After you have relaxed yourself, take her into your lap and ask her how she feels when you leave her every morning. Listen carefully to what she says and remember not to interrupt her. Give her a big warm hug to show that you empathize with her. Wait for a few moments while she takes some time to let your empathy make her feel better. Then you can chat with her about how you feel too. Tell her about your work and the people at your workplace (if possible, a visit someday will help her understand better.) Then you can gradually move on to chatting about how you can will help her deal with her big emotions every morning.
@Anonymous While it is so helpful to have grandparents around, it can also be a source of conflict, especially when it comes to disciplining your child. Buying your child a toy every day has tremendous negative impact on your child’s social and emotional health. Choose to talk to the grandparents when all of you are in a calm and relaxed mood. Tell them that while you appreciate their love for your daughter, you are worried about them buying her a toy every day and how this practice will impact her for life. They are well-meaning but just not aware of the long-term effects of their over-indulgence. Explain to them the following: research shows that children who are over-indulged will most likely become self- centered and demanding, will have difficulty with people when they can’t get what they want and thus become unpopular with peers, will not learn how to deal with disappointment and frustration. They become fearful and irresponsible adults. This information will help them re-think and realise why they should stop indulging in their grandchild. While they agree to stop buying her a toy every day, they can show their love by spending time with her - telling her stories, playing games, listening to her imaginative stories, teaching her simple skills, taking her for a walk etc. These activities create happy memories for your child. The memories become her comfort place in her mind. Most importantly, you will all see your child growing up to be responsible, caring and self-confident.