@Leena Jumani Dear reader, it is indeed appalling to see children telling lies. But if caregivers understand why children tell lies and are prepared to deal with the issue, lying behaviour can be stopped. Children may tell lies to test out a new behaviour, or to gain approval from others, or to get the focus off of themselves, or to avoid trouble, or simply because they have seen their parents or other role models tell lies. To remedy his behaviour, think about what are the consequences he faces when he does tell lies. Is he punished? Is he spoken to harshly? Is he labelled as a liar? If the lying behaviour is due to seeking attention by the child, its best ignored. But if lying is happening due to other reasons, it often works to offer an opportunity to the child to tell the truth, without fear of negative consequences. For example, the parent could say, "That sounds like a tall tale. Why don't we try again and say what really happened?" If the lie is about something more serious, such as doing homework, the best approach is to ask the child, and if he says he has done his homework, the parent can gently ask to be shown the notebook, without implying lack of trust. On checking the notebook if the parent finds that homework hasn't been done, the parent can say, "I would like you to complete your homework right now. I'll be sitting next to you." Additionally, the parent needs to discuss with the child why he said he had done his homework, whereas he actually hadn't. The tone should be gentle and non-accusatory. It is then that a reasonable consequence needs to be delivered to the child (such as losing a privilege), after being mutually agreed-upon with the child. The idea is to encourage the child to speak the truth and discourage lies without yelling and scolding. Its equally important to focus on problem-solving with the child- to address why he needed to tell the lies. For example, if he didn't finish his homework because he wanted to play- this need for playing needs to be addressed. If he didn't do his homework because he finds the subject difficult, that needs to be addressed. So looking at lying not as a moral issue but as a problem solving issue helps. All the best!
@Anonymous Dear parent, Its wonderful to see that you want to answer the questions posed by your child, rather than sweeping them under the carpet. Talking about puberty and sexual development with your 11 year old is not just desirable, it is important. Ideally, parents should talk to their children about puberty before they hit puberty. You could start small, by using everyday situations, to have ongoing conversations about puberty- why it is an important period of development in humans and what changes (both physical and emotional) do girls and boys go through. Try to keep it simple and use actual body part terms for genitals. Please remember that your child is looking toward you as a source of information, so try to be objective. If you feel embarrassed or awkward, it helps to practice what you want to say ahead of time and to keep emphasizing to your child that this is an important conversation to have. It is also important to be reassuring and explain to your child that many changes (such as acne, hormonal changes, mood changes, etc.) are normal and differently paced for different adolescents. Also, encourage your child to ask as many questions as possible- the more you can answer his questions, the less he is likely to seek inaccurate sources to satisfy his curiosity. If you yourself are unsure of something, tell your child that you will get back to him with the answer. All the best!
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