@Anonymous Hi, we usually use the word 'study' so many times that preparing for exams can feel like moving a mountain for a child. Learning is supposed to be fun. Unfortunately children are judged based on their scores. At school they usually have a ranking system or they talk in terms of who are the class toppers. Some children strive very hard to get a better rank and be appreciated by the teachers and parents. As far as healthy competition goes, it is good to be influenced by the toppers and achievers as this will help them to focus and they will work hard. As a mom, you have noticed that he is tensed. It’s great that you have understood that he is stressed and want to help him build his confidence. A child needs that support and understanding from a mom in order be happy and reach full potential. Please speak to your child and tell him that everybody can do only their best and he should just focus on doing his best. Tell him that you will be fine with whatever the result is. Let him understand that there is always a next time and he is just in 5th std. He should realize that there will be lot more exams and tests coming his way and he will get better with each one. From your side, try to make learning fun as much as possible when he is revising at home. If he doesn’t understand something, repeat as many times as possible or find alternate methods of teaching him. Try to use relaxing and calming words as he is already stressed. Find out which are the subjects that he really enjoys and check if he needs extra help with some subjects. There is lot of help available on the net. He can learn math concepts easily from some videos online. Make sure he reads a lot. This will help him to improve his vocabulary and sentence formation and he will be able to understand his subjects well. Motivate him and build his confidence by praising him when he does well and be sensitive to his feelings whenever he struggles with any subject. Words are very powerful. They can affect young minds. Let him hear positive words and also try to remind him of all the times when he did well. Let him eat nutritious meals and get a good night’s sleep every day. With all your efforts and guidance, his mind will relax a bit and he will reach his full potential. All the Best:)
@Anonymous It is a pressure that he has created for himself as he is growing older and more responsible. He is also feeling the pressure because he is a well-performing student. It is great that you have discerned the stress in your child. Just keep reassuring him that it is important to work hard and be sincere, but not at the cost of his mental and physical health. Let him know that his well-being and happiness matters most to you!
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Dear Parent, it must be so hard for you to see your child so stressed out. Its possible that he is putting a lot of pressure on himself. Some of the pressure could also come from the class if there is raw competition and from self-expectations to ace the exams. Although done in good faith, when you explain things to him, you express your view point and expect him to feel reassured. Since your approach is not working, lets try a different one. You will understand the cause of his stress only when he shares it with you. To enable this sharing, calm yourself do things that relieve your own stress because your child will otherwise pick up your stress too. You could say to him, I know how scary the exams are. It must be making you feel tense and worried. Would you like to talk about it? Your words will convey empathy and caring for what he is feeling deep inside him and will help him open up and share his fears and worries. At this point just be a good listener. Do not counter what he says. He needs to feel safe that you will not counter or criticize or offer advice. The outpouring helps settle his fears and worries. Ask him, How would you like us to help you? He is now ready to find solutions with your guidance and support. Hope this is helpful. Do get back should you need further support from us. For additional tips, please click on the following links: https://www.parentcircle.com/article/how-to-deal-with-exam-stress-tips-from-child-psychologists/https://www.parentcircle.com/article/puncturing-exam-stress/
@Kavita Mahesh I feel young children need not be given mobiles at an impressionable age. For school-related work or for communication they can use their parents' phones. As parents we ensure that the phone has parental controls in place, but children out of curiosity may land up in sites which may be harmful. Once the child is older say in high school, a phone may be given just for communication purposes as they attend multiple tuitions and extracurricular classes.