@Anonymous Dear Parent, preschooler child is too small. He likes to play alone means he is an intelligent boy. Don't be afraid and be anxious about future as no one knows what's going to happen the next moment. Try to live in present moment with positive attitude. With your strong mind things will go as per your wish.
@Anonymous Dear Parent, thanks for reaching out to us. You seem to have built a strong relationship with your child which is the foundation for your child’s emotional health – self-confidence and independence. It’s a thin and tricky line between dependency and over-dependency in a relationship. So your worry is quite understandable. A child’s attachment with a parent gives him a great sense of security, knowing that his parent will take care of his needs, enjoy playtime with him and comfort him when he is distressed. At the same time, as the child grows he wants to learn to do things by himself, such as eat and dress on his own, carry his things, try to do new things. These are very important first steps in learning to be independent and to feel capable of doing things for himself. Without these skills, he feels unsafe in the company of other children, unsure about how to play with them, helpless because he sees other children able to take care of themselves. Playing with toys gives a child his first experiences in feeling capable, such as managing to build a tower of blocks or fix things together. Many parents tend to complete these tasks for the child, so the child does not experience the thrill of having learnt to do something by himself. Thus the child becomes dependent on the parent. To help your child become more independent, encourage him to do things on his own (according to his age), allow him to make mistakes and help him learn from them. Allow him to help you with small tasks around the house and appreciate his efforts. The confidence he gains will make him more comfortable to play with other children. Do let me know how he progresses.
@Anonymous Hi, every child is different but instead of generalising, if you analyse this particular situation, as a mother to him, you know more about him than everybody. What are your concerns when you are away from him? Preschoolers are very small and they miss their mom at school everyday. Some even cry before entering the class, which they outgrow eventually. Probably he is missing you when he is away and that makes you worried. How old is he? From all your life experiences, you must have seen so many kids all through life. What do you feel... ? what excites him ? What is his favourite toy ? He is disinterested in playing with toys but are there toys that he is attached to? What is his favourite activity ? I was an assistant teacher for a while and I noticed many things but there was one kid who liked to play with one other child only everyday and liked to stick to him only and there was another who would go join any group and be a helper, leader to others trying to offer help while doing some art or playing games. Some are talkative and loud and some are shy and quiet. Don’t force him to play with others or stay with others if he does not want to but make sure you take him to the playground, and let him play in a playgroup. Enrol him in drawing lessons or sports of his choice. Why would it worry you if he is not with you ? How about leaving him with grandparents for a few hours without you.. how would he react to that ? At every general checkup, the doc does ask some usual questions related to development. Please do talk about your concern with a paediatrician just to make sure all your doubts are cleared. Everything will be fine eventually. As he grows up, he will learn a lot, adapt, deal with friends, get comfortable with school and the world in general. As a mom do what is best for him, keep him happy, and enjoy his childhood. All the Best :)
@Team ParentCircle Thanks for the article. I also prefer apps while playing rhymes for my kids rather than playing them on youtube as it doesn't automatically get redirected to other inappropriate videos or ads. Found this article useful.