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      Is it okay to co-sleep with your child?

      There are enormous cultural differences between the west and the east when it comes to co-sleeping with your child. When is the right time to shift your little one to a separate bed? What are the benefits and risks of co-sleeping? Would be great to h...

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      Priyasoma
      Priyasoma
      Nov 10, 2017

      Priya 1)They feel more loved & stay happy 2)The kids will talk a lot while in bed and also have a good nights sleep 3)They will def feel safe and secure . 4) but its always good to make them sleep separately once in a while to drive out the fear of sleeping alone / fear of dark 5) as kids grow older , the parents should be really careful of their adult talk and behavior.. They have to be cautious if they want their time . 6) whether we co sleep or not , kids def outgrow fast and become more independent and confident I really believe that the kids who sleep with their parents are more disciplined , caring , lovable , confident , transparent. Once they become real big , say 10 plus , u can make them sleep alone . they will quickly adapt themselves. When they are sick , they def need us beside them , def mom if not both !! They sleep better actually in these situations

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      anjulan1981@gmail.com
      Oct 07, 2017

      Well, as we all know, there is no specific age or time when parents have to stop co-sleeping with their children. Important thing to keep in mind is to consider the child's idea or priority. Few children are ready at a very younger age and few children might have some worries in sleeping alone. From a very age of the child it is good to have a bed time routine, may be stories or simple silly memory games or anything. Children who have such sleep routines usually go easy about the idea of sleeping separately.

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      Mohan
      Mohan
      Oct 06, 2017

      Pros and Cons of Co-Sleeping with Your Child

      Cultures around the world have different views on parents co-sleeping with their children. While some endorse it, some don’t. Both sides have their valid arg...

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      Devi
      Devi
      Oct 04, 2017

      The answer is very subjective. There is no strict age to do so, and not necessarily the chronological age of the kid matches the readiness for the independence. For example my elder daughter started to sleep alone at the age of the 10, but my younger one seeing the elder one wants to sleep along at the age of 7.It is purely cultural, if both the parents and kids are comfortable can go for it. No need to push or be anxious about it.

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      Mohan
      Mohan
      Sep 26, 2017

      Pretty useful inputs !! Looks more like leaving the choice to the kid. @ Arundathi - What's your view on this? There are few parenting aspects, where we say, do what would be good for the kid, rather than just accepting what the kid demands. Most of us feel it's better the child decides whether he/she wants to sleep with parents.

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      Arundhati Swamy
      Arundhati Swamy
      Oct 10, 2017

      @Mohan Yes Mohan. It is confusing - your decision or theirs. It's not really about which is right or wrong. Rather, I would say look what works for your family. Go with your gut feeling. Kids will ultimately outgrow their need to co-sleep with their parents. When? Difficult to say. Perhaps in advanced teens their need for privacy will break the habit. Work towards it rather than enforce it, bear up with the inconveniences till then, and hope for the best! For some, sleep-overs help them wean away from the habit.

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      Saakshath Vijay's Dad
      Saakshath Vijay's Dad
      Sep 25, 2017

      Very interesting discussion here on co-sleeping and important points have been touched upon. It is true that our ways are very different from the west, especially when it comes to issues such as co-sleeping. My son is 11 years old and in our case, the situation was slightly different. From the time he was four years old, he has had a room for himself, mainly because he used to sleep with this grandmother. But, just so he did not feel the anxiety of not sleeping with his parents, we have had a bedtime ritual since he was a toddler. We would read to him his favourite bedtime stories and talk to him till he was sleepy. We also told him that he was welcome to come and sleep in our bedroom, if he wished to. Now he is grown up, but still have the ritual of sitting with him at bedtime and chatting with him. Last year, he himself told us that he was comfortable sleeping alone in his bedroom,when his grandmother is not in town. That way the transition was smooth. @Sathiya Priya, I had the same fears like you did -- whether he would be comfortable or not? What if he gets up in the middle of the night and gets scared when he finds himself alone? But he seems to be fine. I think when children should sleep on their own, when they think they are ready for it. Nevertheless, I feel parents also need to gently tell them that we need our privacy.

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      Sathiya Priya
      Sathiya Priya
      Sep 21, 2017

      You shall co-sleep with the kids till a certain period as most of the kids at the young age feel unsecured to sleep alone. I feel it should be consultative decision as both the parent and child should be comfortable. In our house, we all have the perfect family time before we go for sleep only. We discuss certain important things like academic goal settings for the kids, planning for an outing etc., We make it a point to have a family dinner and have light conversations too but ultimate family time is only before sleep. We all share the funny things happened during the day and certain other information, read stories, play some memory games etc. It was quite hard for me to initially think of parting way for a separate room for my kids even when the children younger to my kids started sleeping alone in our extended family. But when the kids wanted their space we thought it’s the right time to make them sleep alone. They will sleep alone in their room but after our usual family time and fun. There are nights when I used to suddenly wake up, rush and check they are sleeping well. One such day when I went, my little one asked,” Amma, what happened? Did you have a bad dream?”. Smiled at myself and I replied, “Nothing like that, simply”. In fact, I was the one who was in tears when my elder one started for the preschool. She never cried for single day. Kids will get adjusted but they should get convinced for that. @ Mathari - I understand your feelings. I too initially used to peep into their rooms in the middle of the night to make sure they are feeling safe but they used to tease me and gradually we will get used to it. But earlier the better, once they are too old they take longer time. In my case younger never search for me unlike the older one. @ Mohan - First, they should feel that it’s their room and its made specially for them. Set up a reading corner, decorate with the artwork done by them etc. to have the sense of ownership for the place then we shall slowly tell them they can sleep in their own room. Maybe, initially parents can sleep with the kids in the room for a couple of nights

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      Mohan
      Mohan
      Sep 22, 2017

      @Sathiya Priya Good points Sathiya. It's turning out to be more subjective as we keep discussing about it :)

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      Mathari
      Mathari
      Sep 22, 2017

      @Sathiya Priya Good thoughts Sathiyapriya. I liked your recommendations for the parents to accompany the kids in their new room for a couple of days.

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      Arundhati Swamy
      Arundhati Swamy
      Sep 22, 2017

      @Mohan Sathia, thanks for sharing your experience. Very practical and useful. To add one more suggestion - sometimes it helps them to know that they can come over to your room whenever they feel afraid, worried and need comforting.

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      Arundhati Swamy
      Arundhati Swamy
      Sep 21, 2017

      This is indeed a very interesting discussion. I also think that beneath the genuine reasons for wanting kids to sleep separately, is another common and important reason - the lack of privacy for parents to share, discuss important stuff, and definitely for romantic and physical intimacy. And its not easy for kids if they stumble upon parents sharing sexual intimacies. Neither is it easy for the embarrassed parents! Busy lifestyles today leave very little room for parents to bond and spend time together.

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