My son is preparing for IITJEE, but I found he has to go a long way to get to crack JEE Main. How can I tell him? I fear if I say something it would affect his morale/ confidence. But I really want to tell him that there are other areas where he can do well. I know he will not listen. He will hit back saying 'Mom, why r you losing the confidence in me'. He is stressed out. Actually, I want to help him
@Arundhati Swamy First thing, I find the preparation for JEE is not enough: When he struggles to get good marks in the class test and finding it challenging to find time to do practical sums on old JEE question papers. I was telling him to do 5 questions from the old papers to crack everyday, but he is not. Also his method of studying is reading the book and trying out problem sums from notes, if only he tries new problems everyday for the question bank, it will help him. Most of the time, he won't do problem sums when he don't know. He has to try the unknown ones to crack the exam not keep doing the easy ones. I agree, I have my own fear, that with the limited seats with all the brilliant talents vying for the exam, how can he compete and get into IIT, hence I want him to understand that this will not help. It is very difficult to make him understand. I really don't want him to get discouraged.
@Anonymous Hi. it looks like you are really up against a tough situation. There are times when our kids will face disappointment and its most painful for parents to see them struggle through it. S,ince your son is ever so determined to do it his way, maybe you just need to brace yourself for the outcome. He could surprise you and himself with good results , or he could face failure. While you may be convinced that his preparation is inadequate, there really is no other alternative except to let him go ahead, and await the results. During this time you could prepare yourself emotionally to deal with possible disappointment and also learn how to support him if the worst happens. Much as we would like to protect our kids, there are times when we just can't, so we all need to support each other through the disappointment. Later, the experience can be used to learn from it and move on. Do let me know if you would like some tips on how to prepare yourself, if the disappointment happens.