@Anonymous Dear Parent, thank you for reaching out to us. Your story reflects a lot of pain and struggle. It’s nice to note that you are still trying hard to help your daughter. There is so much that your family is dealing with. From what you have described, it does seem like its too much for you to handle on your own. It is unfortunate that the earlier counselling did not work out for your daughter. Children behave in negative ways when they are struggling with something within and don’t know how to help themselves. They lose control and feel afraid of the power they have over others when they demand for things and do whatever they want. Your daughter is probably feeling the same too. It would be best for you to seek professional help again. Even if your daughter is not willing to cooperate with counselling, as parents you can receive support and help on how to handle her behaviours. It helps when there is an independent, trusted person to take you through this difficult time. If you need help to find a good counsellor please do let us know. We will do the needful.
@Anonymous So sorry to read about your struggles. There is a proverb in another language that says that the nature of the sprout is an indication of the future plant. I wish you had taken help much earlier because older children can be far more stubborn. How is she with her peers and other elders? What are her goals in life? Does she pray ? Nevertheless, you are already on the path of recovering this relationship since you are trying to fix things. Please don't give up. I hope one day she understands the value of family and relationships. Pls do consult experts and counsellors and follow through with the instructions. All the best.