Behaviour in 0 - 2 year oldsAre you a parent of a newborn, infant or toddler who is concerned about your little one's behaviour? Join our discussion to clear your doubts, share your journey, know from our experts and explore more about behaviour and how you can help them!
Roopa MMar 14, 2019
@Anonymous Probably it's just a passing phase. You can gently tell him to calm down by hugging him as a mother and tell him in firm but loving voice -No, no crying, no hurting etc, but as you must have seen, visitors sometimes don't understand that some kids/people don't like to be touched that much. We usually see strangers picking up and touching others' children. Babies stay quiet usually but toddlers express themselves a little more. Of course he shouldn't be hurting the person who wants to hug him but be gentle with him at this point. I'm sure he is fine hugging mom, dad, stuffed animals etc., How does he behave in a play group? Once he is exposed more to play groups and play schools when he is ready, his teacher might hug him and he will deal with a bigger circle of kids and people. That will slowly build his social skills. Hope it all changes soon and he can speak up and say pls don't hug if he is uncomfortable and also enjoy hugs by hugging back whenever he is hugged . All the Best!:}Reply
Team ParentCircleMar 18, 2019
@Anonymous Dear parent, isn’t it tough battling the will of a toddler! Firstly, it’s understandable that you want your child to be affectionate and polite to your visitors. However, hugging the child or pulling him closer, even by close family and friends, should be discouraged, especially if it’s against the consent of your child. Teach your child ways to greet visitors, ways that don’t necessarily involve physical touch, such as Namaste or saying hello. Secondly, teaching your child that hitting is unacceptable is important. Give your child the vocabulary to indicate no for things he doesn’t like. E.g., if he doesn’t want to be hugged, instead of hitting, he can say ‘no’ while moving his head from side to side. Teach him that instead of hitting, he can go punch a pillow or tear old newspaper. Demonstrate these actions to your toddler and most of all, do them yourself when you are angry yourself (instead of shouting). This training in emotion regulation can be done even for very young children and is a very important life skill. With these two lines of action, you’ll be giving your child a very important lesson in respect and drawing healthy boundaries. All the best!Reply