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    Behaviour in 18 year olds and above

    Are you a parent of a young adult who is concerned about his/her behaviour? Join our discussion to clear your doubts, share your journey, know from our experts and explore more about behaviour and how you can help them! ... more

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    • Nov 9 2018

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    Team ParentCircle Dec 26 2019

    Are you in a constant tussle between screen-time and family-time? Want to strike that perfect balance and dont know how? Read on to find out how to prevent screen-time from ruling the roost.

    Rani Lakshmi Aug 26 2019

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    Rani Lakshmi Aug 29 2019

    @Rani Lakshmi The ability to share and understand the feelings of others is a critical social skill. Here are tips to foster empathy in your child.

    barghavi Jan 17 2019

    I adopted a girl cjild when she was a month old.she was always average in her studies. She was very well behaved and sweet child till 5 years .
    but after that she has been very aggressive. Once she reached her teens she always has one person a facebook friend or classmate who she calls her boy friend. After her 10th i send her abroad for 1 year as an exchange student . i thought this would change her after coming back also there is no change in her behavior . She is very strong physically . When i tell something and she does not like it she will start hurling hindi and english abuses at me. sometimes she hurts me physically also .Once there was a cutter in her hand which she hurled at me and cut my hand.she does not respect her father also and puts him down in front of others. We have reahced a point wherein we feel it was the biggest mistake of our life to adopt her. She is not at all greatful. I took her to a psychologist . But she did not follow his instructions and says i dont need any counselling. she likes to go to expensive restaurants with friends and whatever funds i give her she will keep spending . we are a working couple and retiring soon. she knows about her adoption Please advice

    barghavi Jan 17 2019

    @barghavi Dear Parent, thank you for reaching out to us. Your story reflects a lot of pain and struggle. Its nice to note that you are still trying hard to help your daughter. There is so much that your family is dealing with. From what you have described, it does seem like its too much for you to handle on your own. It is unfortunate that the earlier counselling did not work out for your daughter.
    Children behave in negative ways when they are struggling with something within and dont know how to help themselves. They lose control and feel afraid of the power they have over others when they demand for things and do whatever they want. Your daughter is probably feeling the same too.
    It would be best for you to seek professional help again. Even if your daughter is not willing to cooperate with counselling, as parents you can receive support and help on how to handle her behaviours. It helps when there is an independent, trusted person to take you through this difficult time.
    If you need help to find a good counsellor please do let us know. We will do the needful.

    barghavi Jan 18 2019

    @barghavi So sorry to read about your struggles. There is a proverb in another language that says that the nature of the sprout is an indication of the future plant. I wish you had taken help much earlier because older children can be far more stubborn. How is she with her peers and other elders? What are her goals in life? Does she pray ?
    Nevertheless, you are already on the path of recovering this relationship since you are trying to fix things. Please don't give up. I hope one day she understands the value of family and relationships. Pls do consult experts and counsellors and follow through with the instructions. All the best.

    Team ParentCircle Dec 27 2018

    TIP OF THE DAY:

    Effective ways to reduce gadget addiction in children:

    1. Be a role model: Children, no matter how old they are, tend you watch their parents and learn from them. If you feel your child is getting addicted to gadgets, see if you are actually spending more time on your gadgets. Start doing things that might probably motivate your children to also try them out and be their role models.

    2. Tech-free times and zones: As a family, sit together and plan tech/gadget free times and zones within the home and follow it strictly.

    3. Encourage other activities: Be it sports, art, music, dance, reading books or anything, encourage your child to do more extracurricular activities, as these in turn, reduces their gadget usage.