Is stress making you lose your cool? Then, become a SQUID Minder and help keep yourself calm. To know more about SQUID, please read through this article!
By Mel Ganus and Priya Dharshini
Wonder why we sometimes react in haste and lose control of our emotions? How much of our drama could be avoided? Our expert, Dr. Mel Ganus, helps you learn how to better understand and manage your emotional brain, with innovative mindfulness tool known as SquidMinders.
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A typical weekday morning. Family members include mommy, daddy, 5-year-old daughter, Nia, and 11-year-old son, Nishant.
What do you think happened here? Why did mommy lose her cool? What triggered her thoughts and reactions? What could she have done instead? The answers, quite literally, lie in our brains. By studying neuroscience at any level, we can better understand why situations like these happen. The more we understand, the easier it becomes to minimise our dramas and maximise our quality of life.
In order to understand what triggers emotional reactions, let us look at the evolutionary anatomy:
The nervous system and our Ancient Brain: Home to our instincts, muscle memory and our most embedded programming - Designed over 300 million years to be highly reactive to ensure our survival.
The limbic system and our Emotional Brain: Extremely old and powerful, our limbic system manages the neurochemistry of emotions that wash over us. When the Ancient Brain senses trouble, the limbic system fires off neurochemical messages across the nervous system to prepare the body for fight or flight. Also designed to be highly reactive with varying emotional states of mind able to vary wildly in short periods of time. Ideally, this system is in an alert readiness state but with a feeling of 'ease' and pleasantness, not constant stress.
The neocortex and our Thinking Brain: Our newest brain, the wrinkly grey matter we picture as the brain, is the home of our conscious awareness. The neocortex processes information at a whole new level, giving us the opportunity to choose how we respond rather than defaulting always to our instinctive reactions. While it is not as strong as the older systems, our Thinking Brain can learn how to watch and influence our older brains, rewiring our systems to be less reactive and dramatic.
So what happened in our first scene?
Mommy’s brains were alarmed out of their sleep by an irritating clock. Her emotional mind was primed for overreacting, drama, and suffering for the whole family. She was not even aware she had other choices of how to think, feel and behave.
By understanding more about her brain, she now has the option to approach the morning differently. When she wakes up, she can consciously use her neocortex to prime her older brains for a great day, with enough personal strength to handle whatever comes up with more ease and kindness.
SQUID, it turns out, make a fantastic metaphor for understanding our older brains and nervous systems. Squid has existed for 100s of millions of years and is very fast and reactive. It changes colors, attack and squirts ink when distressed. We call the collection of our older brains and nervous system our SQUID Brain.
SQUID also makes a great 5-step mindfulness technique to help engage the Thinking Brain to help find choices and determine best options. We invite people to “Think BEFORE you ink!”
Our brain is made of more than 100 billion neurons. Metacognition, watching our own minds in action, gives us the opportunity to make observations and better choices. We can deliberately begin rewiring the automatic pilot programming we have. Using the 5 steps of SQUID can make that easier. You can reinforce your conscious effort by using SquidMinders to remind you of your intentions. Use whatever you can for additional reinforcement to the new neural pathways you want to develop. We highly recommend watching Dr. Joe Dispenza’s TEDx video on “Thinking, Doing and Being” which is exceptional for developing a better understanding of how you can consciously rewire your own brain.
Like squid, the human mind is still very mysterious to us, but there are new discoveries every day. We urge all our fans to pay attention to news about brain research, mind and life hacks, and methods others use for improving their quality of thinking. SQUID your mind and mind your SQUID! Look for “Quality of Life Experiments” on ParentCircle.com to learn more.
Setting up SquidMinders can be meaningful and fun for the whole family. Here are some of our favorites:
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A typical weekday morning. Family members include, mommy, daddy, 5-year-old daughter, Nia, and 11-year-old son, Nishant.
Dr Mel Ganus and Priya Dharshini are founders and directors of Quality of Life Enterprises.
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