Do you think that a high IQ is enough for your child to succeed in life? If yes, then think again. Here are some other qualities that are more important than IQ for success.
By Arun Sharma
Reams and reams have been written about the important role IQ plays in propelling an individual towards success.
How obsessed humankind is with IQ can be gauged from the fact that there are several tests designed to measure the level of an individual’s intelligence, numerous products available to boost IQ, and umpteen mental exercises that claim to improve brainpower.
However, more and more people are beginning to realise that success doesn’t solely depend on IQ.
According to *Dr Ravi Samuel, "There are nine types of intelligences; naturalist, intrapersonal, linguistic, bodily kinaesthetic, interpersonal, existential, logical, spatial and musical! Identifying which of these are higher in their children and nurturing that intelligence will bring greater success to them. So, parents need to know what their children are good at and nurture that ability to help their children enjoy what they are doing and make them successful."
Let’s read and understand about traits that are more important than IQ for success in life.
Emotional intelligence: This is the ability to understand, assess, manage and express one’s emotions as well as influence and manage the emotions of others. A child with healthy emotional intelligence is more likely to stand up for her peers, extend a helping hand, practise mindfulness, and develop satisfying relationships. It is also a critical leadership quality, as it helps an individual understand her strengths and weaknesses. In her article, ‘Why We Need to Teach Kids Emotional Intelligence’, Lisa Firestone PhD, says, “Research has shown that emotional intelligence or EQ predicts over 54% of the variation in success (relationships, effectiveness, health, quality of life).”
Growth mindset: Individuals with this quality believe in the fact that their abilities aren’t fixed and that they can develop their talents to achieve more success. A child with a growth mindset is keen to learn, resilient, and persistent in his efforts.
"Every child needs direction in life to streamline his energy and efforts. Otherwise, his mind may get diverted towards non-purposeful activities, which will later lead to behavioural and mood problems. Adopting a growth mindset enables a child to channelise his energy towards purposeful pursuits, and achieve success in both academics and extra-curricular activities." *Dr Ravi Samuel
Passion: Most of us agree that approaching any task with enthusiasm helps us accomplish it in a better way. But, do you know why passion helps us do better and succeed? Passion gives rise to the desire to make things happen. It develops a strong sense of connection between the individual and her interests, and increases motivation levels. It creates a feeling of resilience, because of which, setbacks don’t deter us from trying again.
Intrinsic motivation: It is the quality that makes us remain continually interested in and committed to what we are doing or should do, because accomplishing that feels naturally satisfying. Intrinsic motivation makes a child feel curious, gives rise to the desire to do things and learn, devote more time to academics/tasks, and remain resolute towards his goals.
Willingness to learn: Learning is a lifelong process and children display a natural desire to learn. In a child, the willingness to acquire new knowledge and develop new skills is of vital important, as it would help him stay ahead of the competition and propels him towards success. However, as children grow up, the enthusiasm to learn wanes because of the curbs we place on their urge to explore and experience.
*Dr Ravi Samuel is one of Chennai's eminent psychotherapists who offers mental health therapy through his URClinic.
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