Independent Thinking and Perfectionism
"The ability to stand on our own, think independently, and at the same time, collaborate and make long-lasting friendships."
By Team ParentCircle
Padma Shri Dr K M Cherian
Renowned Cardiac Surgeon
The ability to stand on our own, think independently, and at the same time, collaborate and make long-lasting friendships – all these skills contribute to the social and psychological strengths of an individual. My parents taught us that. As far as my mother was concerned, she was a perfectionist. And, in my profession, this ‘perfection’ has helped me, as being a cardiac surgeon I deal with human life. My mother also stressed on punctuality.
A mother makes a man what he is. My mother played a major role in shaping my future and that of my four siblings. She ensured that we received good education.We did not have proper schools nearby; but she saw to it that we studied in a boarding school. Like most children who attend boarding school, we too developed a sense of responsibility and learnt to be independent. Today’s children depend a lot on their parents. They live in a protected atmosphere and, therefore, become insecure. Such insecurity will only make them grow into insecure adults.
When it comes to bonding with the family, though we did not have a telephone in those days, we kept in touch by writing letters to our parents every weekend.
As far as my own parenting goes, I must state that I have not been able to pass on these qualities fully to my children, especially when it comes to being independent. The main reason being, both my children were day-scholars due to compulsions from my wife. I share the old world notion that life in a boarding school will nurture independent thinking.