If You Are Good, The World Will Talk About You
"Growing up, we were never encouraged to talk about ourselves, on the premise that if you were good, the world would talk about you."
By Team ParentCircle
Cricket Commentator and Journalist
In my childhood, I don't think values were sought to be inculcated with an eye on success. But honesty was certainly a quality that was considered very important. My brother, who has always been my role model, got a top state rank. He never copied in his exams. That became a testament of honesty for me. Also, growing up, we were never encouraged to talk about ourselves, on the premise that if you were good, the world would talk about you. (I guess in the modern social media-oriented world, that isn't particularly sound advice!)
We didn't particularly chase a goal and, on hindsight, I don't know if that was very clever. But it meant that we had time for a lot of different things and that certainly helped me. That was my father's contribution. He was an academician and could never have been anything else.
My parenting style, and advice to children …
Try to be the best you can be. Practise excellence and take what you get. I would like to believe that our two children (grown-ups now) have strong morals, and a lot of the credit for that goes to my wife Anita, who is an extraordinary woman with a deep commitment to what is right. I would like my children to stay grateful for what they have, because it keeps them grounded. And I would like them to respect women. All the women in my life - my mother, my sister, my wife and my mother-in-law - have been very strong, intelligent and caring. So there you are, some qualities that never go out of fashion!