Becoming a mother is one of the greatest and momentous milestones in a woman’s life, as it gives a woman the opportunity to play a superlative role in her child’s life. But, motherhood also makes a woman go through several emotional highs and lows. So, the role of a mother comes with its own set of significant challenges.
"Being a parent itself is very special, hearing the word Amma makes it even more so. The most special moment so far was when they (children) were born." — Jyothika, Actor
Scientists now believe that motherhood brings about certain significant emotional and neurological changes in women, which influence their behaviours and emotions. And, since negative maternal emotions can adversely affect a child, it is important for mothers to learn how to manage their emotions and moods.
If you are a mother who is riding an emotional rollercoaster, here are a few tips on how to set aside your worries and enjoy the experience of being a mother.
- Embrace your role: Motherhood is definitely overwhelming. As a mother, you shoulder an enormous responsibility and are sometimes unsure of how to deal with some of the challenges coming your way. This can leave you feeling overwhelmed. But, during such tough times, you should remember that you are the most important person for your little one and no one else can replace you. When you realise and accept this fact, you will value your role and learn to take on everything that comes your way. Being a mother certainly isn’t a walk in the park, but your attitude can help make a difference for sure. So, embrace your role as a mother, and savour the joys and everything else that this wonderful journey offers.
- Allow yourself to make mistakes: Don’t strive for perfection. Allow yourself to make mistakes. And, rather than dwelling on things that went wrong, learn from mistakes and make an effort to give your best. This approach guarantees a happy and healthy environment. It also helps you learn to not expect your children to be perfect either and let them know that it is all right to make mistakes. Remember, striving to be the perfect mother can make you lose sight of other important areas of your life. This can prove stressful for both you and your family. So, focus on being a happy mother rather than a perfect one.
- Learn to prioritise: Some busy days leave you with the feeling that being a mother takes up most of your day, and night as well, and you hardly have time left for anything else. So, avoid overscheduling your day. A crowded schedule can leave you feeling drained of all your energy fighting to meet deadlines and yet being unable to attend to all the tasks. This can prove stressful and bothersome. Also, if your children are young, they would need you around more. So, choose your commitments wisely and prioritise your daily schedule to help you manage your time effectively. Remember that, sometimes, spending time with your children is more important than getting the house in order.
- Take care of yourself: Make sure to add your well-being to your list of priorities, although it might seem impossible at times. So, try and catch up on your sleep, take time off to pursue a hobby or a passion, and don’t neglect any physical or mental health concerns. Remember, you need to feel fit and healthy to endure all the ups and downs of motherhood. Also, towards the end of the day, choose a relaxing way to unwind, even if it is only for a few minutes. The bottom line is, don’t feel guilty about taking time off from your hectic schedule. For, you deserve it. Doing this would make your family learn to value the time you spend with them and understand that you need time for yourself as well.
- Seek support: You certainly can’t do it all on your own. So, don’t be ashamed or scared to seek support when situations demand. Reach out to family and friends for support whenever necessary. Connect with other mothers in your neighbourhood to build a network to support you during times of emergency. It feels comforting to know that you are not alone in this journey and that help is available whenever you need it.
“I think parents themselves should be happy. They must not discuss problems in front of the child even if it is about the child. Also, we must parent as a team.” — Jyothika, Actor
Motherhood can be unsettling with the numerous adjustments and changes that might seem to take over your life. Try your best to find happiness in the simple pleasures of this incredible journey rather than allowing yourself to be drowned in this demanding, yet privileged, role!
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