How To Deal With A Dreamy Child

Frustrated with how long it takes for your child to get ready for school? Tired of the complaints from school about her being dreamy? We tell you how to handle a child who is too dreamy.

By Hannah S Mathew

How To Deal With A Dreamy Child

A dreamy child is often misunderstood as being lazy, lacking sensory development or uncooperative. The truth might be that your child is just super creative and, therefore, a dreamer.

There are a few ways you can tell if your child is dreamy. Does she seem to be lost in a parallel universe all the time? Is she most comfortable playing creative games with her toys? Does she neglect her chores often? Do her teachers say she is inattentive in class? Is she prone to misplace her belongings? Does she fidget a lot and constantly need to be told to sit down? If she displays these traits and is guileless or unintentionally susceptible to these behaviours, you probably have a dreamy child on your hands.

Being dreamy need not be construed to be a purely negative trait, there are positives and negatives to being dreamy.

Disadvantages

  • Is slow to respond
  • Creative embellishing of narrations may come across as lies
  • Is straightforward and is often mistaken to be rude
  • Requires instructions to be repeated often
  • Forgets to carry out or complete a task

Advantages

  • Enjoys free play compared to spending time before the screen
  • Adapts easily to complex thinking skills as a teenager
  • Learns basic maths faster than others in primary school
  • Has better motor skills during the developmental years
  • Is a charming communicator

How to help your dreamy child focus

1. Keep things interesting

Remove the monotony from your child’s daily routine. Let every day be interesting by introducing variety in his chores and schedule. Reward him for good performance and allow time for distractions. Surprise him whenever time permits, with a trip to the store, a good movie or a play date.

2. Draw up lists, routines and responsibilities

Put up lists in your child’s closet, on her bathroom mirror and in her school bag. These could serve as checklists, instructions and reminders. For a dreamy child, these will help her remember things and keep abreast with her peers in spite of her wandering mind.

3. Maintain a low-stress environment in the home

Be an organised and easy-going parent. Avoid rushing through the day or being overloaded with work. Plan weekends and holidays well ahead of time. Resort to discussions instead of scolding your child for misbehaviour. It would be a good idea to keep arguments and stressful conversations away from him.

4. Discuss and collaborate for school work

If your child is unable to cope with school work, you might have to pitch in an hour or two on a daily basis to help her. Discuss her school work with her. Ask her to explain her homework to you. Help her by offering ideas and encouraging her. Ensure, however, that her work is her own. Maintain a good rapport with her teachers so that you are aware of the areas in which she needs help.

5. Create the right environment and remove all gadgets

Soft music and good lighting can clear the dreariness out of any task. Since your child has a tendency to wander off, it would be ideal to keep all relevant tools and materials within easy reach. In this way he won’t need to get out of his seat too much. Any distraction in the form of noise through an open window, toys or games and electronic gadgets need to be out of his study area.

Activities that make a difference

  1. Chess is a game that enhances the brain’s ability to logically sequence thoughts, plan for possible change and help focus on end goals and be patient. Playing chess with her will calm your nerves too and allow for some quiet time to process her thoughts.
  2. Power time is simply power-napping for him and time to collect thoughts for you. Twenty minutes of sleep as soon as he gets back from school will refresh him. You can use this time to plan the rest of the day.
  3. Breathing exercises are calming and encourage positive thinking. Doing simple breathing exercises together with your child will not only create a peaceful environment but also strengthen your bond.
  4. One-minute memory games are simple to come up with. List 15 points from a movie you watched together or a trip to the museum you took together. You could also create lists of random items for each other and take a minute to read them and another minute to replicate them. These games stretch the mind’s ability to remember information.
  5. Reading together is a very useful activity which has multifarious benefits. He can develop his vocabulary, gain exposure to usage and get creative insights from discussions after a reading. Most importantly, he can learn to focus on details in the book for longer. This promotes longer spans of interest.

Dreamy kids are winners even though they may not be easily understood. They are more adaptable, amiable, interested in chaos-free work styles and inclined to collaborate for the common good. Dreamers can be great people-persons and create stress-free environments.

Dreamers can be extremely successful in their careers as:

  • Scientists and historians
  • Creative directors in advertising
  • Production artists in the media
  • Fashion and interior designers
  • Animation, graphic and concept artists
  • Creative writers

Encourage your child to dream. Allow for big ideas, stupendous stories and gigantic projects. Become a part of his dreams and help him realise them. By encouraging him, you give him the wings that he needs to fly and soar high. 

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