Grand Lessons From Grandparents
We all have those precious childhood memories of time spent with grandparents. On Grandparents Day, a few of our readers share with us the grand lessons they learnt from their grandparents.
By Team ParentCircle
Grandparents, like heroes, are as necessary to a child's growth as vitamins.” Joyce Allston
There was a bumper sticker that said – ‘If I knew it would be this much fun, I would have become a grandparent first!’ The strictest parents have been known to have turned into the most indulgent grandparents. While most parents might be worried about raising their kids right and providing for the family – grandparenting is a much more relaxed and beautiful relationship. After all, what could be more cute than the super seniors and the tiny juniors ganging up against the world.
But amidst all the fun, outings, and common goals, for instance – ‘how to convince mummy to eat ice cream in the morning’ – grandparents bring in years of experience and pearls of wisdom. In literature as well, this special bond has been celebrated –In Swami and Friends by R.K.Narayan – Swami has a unique bond with his grandmother, he loves to go to sleep next to her listening to stories and she is his shield against his strict father. In Charlie and the Chocolate Factory – it is Grandpa Joe who accompanies Charlie to the factory and is favorite and trusted adult. In Max and Ruby and Peppa Pig – the grandparents play a pivotal role in their childhood.
Many kids look back fondly on the bond they shared with their grandparents in their growing up years. Read on, for a compilation of stories contributed by ParentCircle readers – Grand Lessons from Grandparents.
#1 Deepika Amit Gupta
Grandparents are the centrepiece of our life as they have so much experience about life. They have the solutions to most of our problems and have so many things to offer their grandchildren. This is about my grandma, Bimla Devi, who we all call Amma. This 79-years-old is a superwoman, to begin with. No one can be like her. She is the thread that binds our family together by ensuring that different personalities of the family all blend into a beautiful frame. Her positive vibes at this age inspire us a lot. Her zest for life is so much that she can’t sit idle for a moment. She wants to do something for everyone in her family. She has difficulty walking still she is eager to meet family members. Due to an accident during her childhood, she has almost no vision in one eye, still she didn’t resign herself to a life of idleness. She knits sweaters for her family members regularly. Looking at her work, no one can believe that she has difficulty in her vision. She is a role model for us, her grandchildren. Early on, she has taught me a life lesson that ‘Never mull on your problems. If your problems are making you unhappy, act on them.’
Following are some of the other grand lessons I learned from my grandma.
- She teaches me to be independent early on.
- She also asks us to value friends and friendship.
- One of the main life lessons I learnt from her is not to take life too seriously.
- Her never-ending zeal for life also teaches us to be in love with life.
#2 Smitha RP
Grandparents are a great source of knowledge. They not only pass on pearls of wisdom but also fill our lives with an abundance of love. Grandparents always share a special bond with their grandchildren. We learn so much from their experience. They are like an experienced life coach for us.
From my grandparents, I learned these invaluable lessons for life.
- Respect each member of the family to live harmoniously.
- Value the relationship at any cost.
- To obey and respect the elders of the family.
- My grandparents inculcate in us an interest in our culture and tradition.
- To be always courteous to everyone around us. They also believe that if you are good to others, better things would happen to you.
- My grandmother always asks us not to indulge in loose talks.
- She also taught us tolerance and to find a solution to any problems with patience.
- Grandma also advised us not to discuss internal family matters with outsiders and till date I follow that.
- I also learned from her not to make big issues out of small matter.
- I also learned from them to be clear and precise when I speak of important matters.
- My grandparent also encouraged us to act on problems boldly and not brood about it.
I hope to inculcate the same values and teachings to my children so that they can be happy and lead a successful life.
My granddad was in the Army for a glorious 50 years. He was not very good at expressing his feeling, but his genuine love for his grandchildren was evident.
He may have missed many events in my growing up years owing to his service to the nation, but his encouraging words and support for all my endeavours more than made up for the absence. Even if he was not there with us on occasions, we felt proud that he was out there protecting our country.
I still remember one incident; it was my dance competition but my grandpa was away on an official assignment. But he said he would try to be there at the venue on time. Waiting for my turn to perform, I anxiously scanned the audience for him. But he was nowhere to be seen. Soon, it was my turn, as I entered the arena, it was grandpa’s words that echoed in my mind “remember to enjoy yourself.” And I did just that. It was a good day for me. As I am about to finish my performance, I saw him, walking fast and searching for me and my family. Later, when I walked up to him, he told me that he already knew that I would perform well. Luckily, he was there for the award ceremony. My grandpa watched me with pride in his eyes and a wide smile on his lips as I received the “Best Performer” award. His claps were the loudest.
When I struggled with my academics, he stood by me, encouraging me to be focused and hardworking. He always said, “when the going gets tough, the tough get going!!” He told me stories of his ‘fauji experiences’ me to do well in life. I learned a lot from him. He taught us that life isn’t just about glitz and glamour, it’s a duty to be fulfilled. Love for our country is another lesson I learned from my grandfather.
#4 Rhianna Fernandes
My grandparents taught me to:
- Be present with the people you are with. There was a time when I was glued to my phone, then my grandmother made me understand the importance of family time and asked me to be attentive while spending time with family.
- My grandparents also asked us to value of friendship. They told us open to new friendships.
- They encouraged us to be independent to do well in life.
- My grandparents also told us to focus wholeheartedly on the job on hand. To give more than 100 per cent effort to make a thing happen is another lesson I learned from them
- To love for your partner unconditionally for better or for worse.
- They taught us to be young-at-heart always.
- They also encouraged us to love life wholeheartedly and find a way to fall in love with it again.
My grandfather is no more and my grandmother is not keeping well. But their teachings will remain with us for a long time to come.
#5 Vaishali Dubey
I am fortunate enough to spend my childhood under the loving care of both my maternal and paternal grandparents. There are so many life lessons that I have imbibed from all of them. But it was my maternal grandma whose lessons still enlightens my path. My grandma was way ahead of her time. Her way of teaching was different. She taught us without lecturing and she led by example. Her teachings were remarkable, and I still cherish those memories. Here, I am sharing one such memory which still brings a smile to my face.
It was summer vacation in schools, the time of the year that we all cousins waited eagerly for throughout the year. I had six aunts, so it was a lot of fun when all my maasis (mother's sisters) and cousins gathered together in the big old house of our grandparents. Most of our afternoons were spent reading comics under the big Jamun tree in the backyard. The tree used to be laden with Jamun (berries) at that time of the year. Once, when we all were outside, our grandmother came and asked us which Jamun we would like to have. Excited at the prospect, we all pointed at different sides of the tree. She, then, asked my eldest cousin who was the tallest to climb and pluck the Jamun we all pointed. He did so but we didn't get the exact ones we pointed. Then, she asked us to try it ourselves in any way we think proper. Some of us climbed, some brought a stick to shake the branches, some jumped to grab the one they wanted. After much effort, we were successful in our task and we showed her our loot enthusiastically. She smiled and told us, "If you wish to have the best of fruits, you can't get it simply by standing under the tree with our mouths open nor you will get the desired ones by asking others to try for us. You will get whatever we want in life too, but you have to make an effort to get there. And the added benefit is these fruits would taste sweeter because you all tried hard to get them."
That day, the Jamuns really tasted sweeter. Years later, I understood what she wanted us to realise early in life. With a simple example, she made us understand the importance of hard work to achieve our goals. This has stayed with me and has become the biggest life lesson from my grandma that success tastes sweeter only when it is the outcome of our sincere efforts!
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